Thread: Bad sex with a great guy

It might just be because you guys are nervous. Or you could stop comparing them, no two guys will be the same in or out of bed. I get that it is hard not to compare, but if it was good before, then it will get back there.

Or you could try to take control more, tell him exactly what you want, and how.

Maybe he's learned some tricks since he's been away, too.

There is really no way of telling him he sucks without offending him. So suggesting things you like, and taking control are your best options. But realize it will never be the same as the other guy. It could be better, or worse. I find in the moment random spontaneous sex is usually awesome in the physical sense, but relationship sex is waaaay better in all ways, even if it's not as intense and hormone fueled.

Maybe you remember it being better than it really was?
Maybe you two just need time to remember what the other person likes?
Has he been having sex? He could just be out of practice.

Get drunk and order him around.

I used to think my ex was amazing in bed. And then I fucked someone else and it opened a new door. (Literally, lol). Point being It's difficult to go back to silver (or nickle?) when you've had gold, and if the relationship is worth it it will take some getting used to, but yeah, It's a matter of conveying what you need from him as your lover.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Syco @ Sep 10 2008, 11:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>

Get drunk and order him around.

I used to think my ex was amazing in bed. And then I fucked someone else and it opened a new door. (Literally, lol). Point being It&#39;s difficult to go back to silver (or nickle?) when you&#39;ve had gold, and if the relationship is worth it it will take some getting used to, but yeah, It&#39;s a matter of conveying what you need from him as your lover.[/b]

hahahahahahahaha...

literally.

hahaahah.

sorry OP i have nothing to add

Anon can be anyone. You will notice there is a whole section dedicated to people who want to post and ask a question anonamously.

when i was in high school and read Dolly, there was a section called How Embarrassment and alot of people signed off as Anon, and one time this girl wrote a letter to the Editor asking why Anon got printed so often, and that she can&#39;t possibly have all those embarrassing things happen to her all the time. It was so funny.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Fruity @ Jan 6 2009, 11:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>

when i was in high school and read Dolly, there was a section called How Embarrassment and alot of people signed off as Anon, and one time this girl wrote a letter to the Editor asking why Anon got printed so often, and that she can&#39;t possibly have all those embarrassing things happen to her all the time. It was so funny.[/b]

Hahaha that&#39;s freaking hilarious. It&#39;s hilarious that they published that.

lol this was jet wasnt it?

Or was it aphro?

Im confused

i thought it might be sprank from the title, but then i actually read the original post, so its probably not her.

i also thought it was me.


the only advice i can offer is to give it time. i&#39;m banking on time working out the sexual kinks and such, in my own bed. he&#39;s nervous, you&#39;re nervous, it&#39;s new, whatever. (i&#39;m unclear as to whether you&#39;ve actually slept with him since 6mos ago?)
i also come off of sex with a bombshell who licked my butthole and whatnot. total freak. grrreat sex. but i really couldn&#39;t give a shit about him, personally.
i think if you&#39;re with a great guy, and the sex is subpar in the beginning, it can potentially get much better just because of the emotional aspect being satisfied. anyone can have great physical sex. not everyone has the capacity to satisfy you emotionally in bed as well. and for us ladies, that&#39;s extremely important.

but if this^^ fails me, i will be extremely depressed. so gooood luck to you as well.