Thread: Bizarre sexual fantasies

Relax. You are not abnormal in the sense that you belong on mars. There are a lot of people that don't fall into the standard sexual categories.

I would recommend that you investigate your local bdsm community. You will find people that not only understand your feelings, but also can provide an outlet for them. It is a big step, but it is something that is worth it.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Good luck.

And be safe. Your safety is your responsibility.

Is BDSM wrong?
I would also suggest that you investigate teh local BDSM community and you'll discover that its not that abnormal.
When you discover that its not abnormal, will you no longer like that sort of thing, and try to find something a bit more taboo?

Anon should PM Isaku...

Originally Posted by Ghetto Onion

Anon should PM Isaku...

you rang?

...this thread is relevant to my interests.


Anon, what kind of "bizarre" sexual fantisies do you have?

We're all minorities in one way or the other. Just because you have sexual proclivities that don't match what is considered normal, don't feel that you have to marginalize yourself. BDSM has actually been mainstreamed quite a bit over the last two decades. You can probably thank the internet for much of that in all honesty.

And actually, BDSM is not considered the "height of unconventional sexuality". That title would probably go to the necrophiliacs and bestiality fans.

However the reality remains that people don't fit into nice tidy little boxes labeled 'normal' and 'abnormal'. Whether it's hobbies, sexual orientation, sexual proclivities, the food you eat or the people you befriend. There are always things that make us different. Rather than thinking badly about you being 'different', I encourage you to celebrate it.

The world would be a terribly boring place if we were all alike.

It seems that it is a bit more than just liking something. Its that part of you is telling you that you shouldn't like it. So your body reacts to something like BDSM, or whatever it is you are in to, but your mind is telling you that its wrong?

I have a friend who has this problem. Anytime something turns her on, she feels uncomfortable with herself and hates herself for allowing herself to be turned on by it. Its a terrible struggle for her.

Is this the sort of thing you are talking about?

hey, my body will react to things that later on (after i've cum) make me feel a little queasy.

its totally fine.

I highly ...highly doubt you could shock me.

I've been exposed to nearly everything, feel free to PM me if you want (if you can as anon)

I mean there's stuff I've tried or seen that I won't/don't want to do, but that doesn't mean I'm disgusted or shocked by it.

what is it? golden showers? brown showers? blood play? breath play? infantilism? getting beaten until you're bleeding?

You have to figure, that if there's been porn made of it, the logical extension is that it's been made for a reason. The reason being, somebody gets off on it.

My general reaction has always been that as long as no one is getting hurt against their will, why should I care? And let me tell you, I am probably about as vanilla in my tastes as it's possible to be. But that doesn't mean I have issues with kink- why should I, what you do consensually in your bedroom is absolutely none of my business. And why should I judge?

The thing is, anything and I mean absolutely anything can be seen as 'deviant' and 'wrong' depending on who you ask. Hell, you know there are some sects of Judaism where even husband and wife have sex with a sheet between them so they never see each other naked? They'd think missionary was wrong.

So where is the line drawn? Is the line drawn based on what the 'majority' thinks is weird? Well, that keeps shifting. As has been mentioned, I don't know what circles you associate with, but I've been aware of BSDM since I was 11-12, it doesn't really phase me. You know what phases me? Tentacle hentai. And yet, even there, as long as I don't have to look at it I'm okay with its existence. If a friend came up to me and said, "I get off to tentacle porn every night" I would not give them a shocked and disgusted look, I'd be like "eh okay?"

At some point you have to just accept that your body might like things your mind says you shouldn't, based on societal norms or the way you've been raised... don't worry about what anyone else thinks. With so many people in the world, the possibility that you're genuinely getting off on something no one else in the world does is infinitesimally small. And the concept of getting off on something BECAUSE it's 'wrong' or 'rebellious' is extremely common.

PS- As a lesbian, I feel I must address your mini-attraction to women. You can be straight and still feel attraction for women in certain situations, it doesn't make you gay. Sexuality is fluid, a continuum, it's not black and white Straight OR Gay. There's also bisexual, there's also "I find you attractive but the thought of doing anything about it is repulsive," and every single other shade of gray you can think of. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In fact, seeing that you're aware of it and admitting how you feel instead of repressing all of this is a very good thing.

brown showers whats that ?

let me google it....

you are probably better off not googling it.

I'm curious about breath play. and the tentacle thing. but i'm going to wait until i'm not at work