Thread: Quitting Smoking When He Still Smokes

How long have you been smoking?

Ahh, I dunno. Since my 19th birhtday, I think? I'm now 22.

I don't have much advise to give because I don't smoke/have never smoked but I understand where you're coming from with it. My aunt and her wife are full time taking care of their granddaughter now and my aunt wants to quit smoking so the baby isn't exposed to it. She's gotten close but her wife still smokes, chain-smokes at that, so it's been insanely difficult for her to and she keeps falling back into it.

I have heard that the only way to quit smoking is if you want to for yourself. As much as people want to keep a promise to somebody else, it's hardly ever enough to get them to quit. You say you do want to quit for yourself too so that's good. I suppose the best thing you can do is stay determined and remember that you have to start back from square one if you smoke again.

Not entirely sure how helpful that all is, but I wish you luck.

Thank you. I think that did help a little bit It's nice to know that you understand. So you have a lesbian aunt??? Man, I have such a fetish for lesbians!!! I used to keep my hopes up that my aunt was a lesbian but it turned out she's straight

I went thru exactly this last week. I made it thru 5 days with only one cig.

But I totally fell off the wagon again. It's way too hard when youre living with/engaged to a devoted smoker.

So we're just gonna quit together... Eventually. Teamwork.

Yeah, I mean.. when I was a kid I got all worried about my dad smoking, and made him promise to quit. Then years later, I saw him smoking and I got really upset and started crying. But that's just to show you that it really is difficult to quit solely, or even mainly, for somebody else. You promised her you would quit, you never said WHEN you would quit. I'm 100% for quitting smoking, it really is extremely unhealthy in multiple ways, but at the same time I'm realistic- and cutting back 'most of the time' is certainly better than not cutting back at all. One cigarette a day is 'better' than five.

One thing you can do that might help is to at least try to set some boundaries with your fiance. He should respect you enough to understand. For example, you could ask him to only smoke outside or with the window open, instead of smoking inside the house. You could also have gum with you wherever you go, and when your friends start smoking, pop a piece of gum in your mouth- then you 'can't' smoke, because you're chewing gum instead and who wants to spit out a nice fresh piece of gum?

He doesn't smoke inside, we have a cat. He mainly smokes outside. But I'm a sucker, I keep asking for cigarettes from my friends, even though I don't buy them myself. But yeah, the gum idea sounds worthy. I'm gonna try it.

Keep an accountability log here on S-B.
How man cigs do you smoke a day now?

Yesterday I smoked only two, today the number's been four - and I'm still gonna smoke one if Markus lets me bum from him.

Hi Cara,
Some effective tips to quit smoking are:
Makeup your mind, stick to your goals and consult doctor. Set a quit day and make your quit day special. Keep money you would spend on cigarettes in a saving jar and plan for a treat tomorrow. Avoid going to places where you might find smokers.