Single? Or taken? Have a family?

[Gosu]

I've just seen way too many friends get married too young, too quickly to people they aren't suited for and I know are likely to be a total disaster within 5 years. Hell, more than 50% of marriages end in divorce anyway.

So I think it's stupid to be automatically happy for people when they do things like that and assume it's all going to be shiny and happy. In fact, if you're good friends with someone involved it's your responsibility to at least try to talk them out of it for their own good. Just because they think it's a good idea doesn't mean it is.

Society has for centuries ingrained the marriage = absolutely good all the time whenever mantra into our consciousness, but I think that's ridiculous and should be questioned every time.

[Ghetto Onion]

Um no, they're going to do whatever the fuck they want regardless of what their single and jaded friend thinks of it. In fact, they're just going to resent you for raining on their parade and trying to bring them down to the lonely hole of pessimism you reside in.

And who cares if it's a bad idea? If it was such an awful relationship in the first place, as a friend, you should have already expressed your concerns.

[Gosu]

Oh please. Your attempts to make this all about me are laughable in their petty stupidity. My ego isn't that big. Whether someone is single, in their own relationship or already married themselves, my point still applies.

Things aren't a good idea just because they make you feel good in the short term. I care if it's a bad idea, because it's probably going to cause them and people around them pain later on, and I'd like to avoid that because I don't enjoy watching the suffering of people I like. I'd expect the same from them if I did something monumentally stupid. That's what friends are for.

I'm just saying that I think a lot of the spontaneous yay people do is reflexive because they've been conditioned to feel that way regardless of circumstance.

[Trionix]

Seriously, have you been diagnosed aspergic? Or somewhere fairly high on the autism scale?

[sprankified]

nothing lasts forever- all you can do is be happy for people in the "now"...

and personally, i think the only real difference between marriage in 2009 and marriage in 1940 (and the giant leap in divorces) is that people tended to work a lot harder for everything, including relationships. nowadays, life is a lot simpler as a whole with technology. but relationships between people is constant, so the easy route is divorce.

so as i said- try and be happy for people in the now, since that's all we're guaranteed. there's no such reality as soulmates or anything of that nature. all a successful relationship takes is commitment and communication. the only downfall is that some people aren't willing to put even that little into it.

[Greaser]

sprank is on point, enjoy it while it last one day at a time if it works out cool if it doesnt work out no matter how hard you try gotta move on, however as more experience is picked up from past failures of dating and relationships you gotta learn to be a lil more picky and watch out for red flags on shit that you don't want

[Gutter]

married but still wish i was single sometimes

[Fruity]

wow. over 70% are in a relationship. I wouldn't have picked that.

[Strawberry_Kisses]

Seriously, have you been diagnosed aspergic? Or somewhere fairly high on the autism scale?

He cares about his friends well being. There is nothing wrong with that.

Do you know anything about ASD or Aspergers? Think before you say things like that.

[Trionix]

I know the symptoms...

• Not pick up on social cues and may lack inborn social skills, such as being able to read others' body language, start or maintain a conversation, and take turns talking. [CHECK]
• Dislike any changes in routines. [CHECK]
• Appear to lack empathy. [CHECK]
• Be unable to recognize subtle differences in speech tone, pitch, and accent that alter the meaning of others’ speech. [CHECK]
• Avoid eye contact or stare at others. [CHECK (I've seen him on the dancefloor)]
• Have unusual facial expressions or postures.
• Be preoccupied with only one or few interests, which he or she may be very knowledgeable about. [CHECK]
• Talk a lot, usually about a favorite subject. One-sided conversations are common. [CHECK]

... ?

[Bloody Cara]

Psssh, why rain on the parade. Like someone already said, if the relationship was terrible, you should've told the friend already in the first place. And if it wasn't, well, no reason to not congratulate!!! But please, don't turn this into a debate topic.

Congrats, sprank!

[Esternogligen]

Wow, there are ALWAYS shitstorms here. O.o

I'm in a relationship.
4 months this Friday,or so she says).
Hell if I remember the exact date. Heh...