Thread: Paying for Dates

On topic: I pay. No ands ifs or buts about it. unless the girl i'm with is not my girlfriend and/or I don't want to make her into a girlfriend. For instance if she's a fuckbuddy...we're going dutch or she's paying, and then i'm cumming in her face. I win.
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^ that.

i think that the guy should pay.

but i guess im old-fashioned.

i went on my first date in FOREVER on wednesday which cost him over $125 (2 seats at the pens game, dinner at a lounge, drinks at the game, and a stuffed penguin!) not saying our first date had to be that expensive, its just how it played out. he's the super gentleman-ly type, so im all for him paying for our dates.
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....and you're a whore. No offense meant or anything. Do you plan to pay for any date he takes you on?

first dates a guy should pay.

But at what point do the girls pay?

Im sick of paying. fuck that.

so Jesica, he spent 125 bucks on your ass? so im betting that he left your trailer with an empty sack especially since your known to fuck and suck random dudes at your beastly girlfriends wedding for free!

If I ask a girl out Ill pay. After that, if things continue, we usually tend to split stuff up or take turns.

If you ignore a girl long enough, theyll want to go out, so they make the plans and then feel obligated to pay.

Works great!!!

I mean lets think about this logically. People that date are youngish folks. At this age, females are just as likely to have money as males are. The whole chivalry thing was for back when 30 year old dudes courted 14 year old girls. Obviously no 14 year old girl is going to have money, so it made sense. Nowadays, not so much. I dont feel bad letting a girl pay in the slightest; if she wants to do something, pay for it.

As an aside, this is also a good way to find out if the girl actually likes you, or if she only dates you because its free and convenient.

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Now, based on the theory of the person who asked paying, what about blind dates? What if your set up by some third party? Who pays then?
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I&#39;d probably only ever go on a blind date if the third party paid.

It does depend on who asks who, and how they ask.

"Do you fancy going out for a meal?" is a very different question (financially) to "Can I take you out for a meal?" The former means you either both pay, or have a stupid disagreement about who&#39;s paying when you&#39;re there, the latter means the &#39;I&#39; has to pay. For me personally, if I&#39;ve gone out under the belief that my food is being paid for, I obviously won&#39;t bring up such semantics at the dinner table, I&#39;ll just gauge what her mood seems to be when it comes time to pay. If she&#39;s all up on it, grand, if not, I&#39;ll ask "Am I getting this?"

IF it&#39;s a special meal, and she&#39;s all "no no I&#39;m paying," and I want to pay for it, I&#39;ll excuse myself shortly before the end of the meal under the pretext of going to the toilet, and I&#39;ll slyly pay for the food.
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This is my thinking too. Although after two years and living together &#39;dates&#39; become a whole different thing. But still, if I say "Can we go out for dinner on friday?" I have no expectations for him to pay, or me to pay. Whoever ends up pulling out the cash first, pays. But if I say *I* want to go out for dinner, or ask him if he wants to go, Im inviting HIM so I usually pay. The only time I dont is when he&#39;s given the restaurant choice and he picks somewhere stupidly expensive. I asked to go for dinner, not a gourmet meal and if thats what he wants, then he can pay for it. But like I said, length of time and living situations completely redefine what a date is, and all the standard paying crap goes out the window after a while.

Ha, 3/4 of the time we go out for dinner its completely unplanned and it happens because we&#39;re out running errands and realise we&#39;re starving so we stop somewhere. We don&#39;t do dinner dates much anymore.

the guy who took me on the date was forty&#39;s brother. & yes, afterwards we had a lot of sex. (which i had already had sex with him prior to our date.) i didn&#39;t have sex with him because of the date, i had sex with him because we both wanted to.

i dont feel bad about it, he wanted to take me on a date. and like i said he is a gentleman & he would never make me pay. during the whole hockey game his arm was around me or rubbing my back, and he had his arm behind me when we were walking.

he also told me that hes moving back. because of me. so, he obviously wants to take this further.
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Rarely do you see these two words related.

Are you going to let him pay for everything all the time?? You said he&#39;d never make you pay, does that mean you won&#39;t?? just curious is all, not trying to be rude.