Thread: Cheating Scum

Ummm... not to rain on your parade, but why would you want a guy that had absolutely no problem fucking around on his girlfriend of several years?

Frankly to me it shows that not only could he do it to you, but that he has no personal integrity.

I think you have done the right thing by kissing him off. Let him stay kissed off.

Oh girlie! I have been there, and I have learnt a few things!

Number 1: He WON'T change... if he has been cheating on her, then he WILL cheat on you - he has proven he is a dickhead for cheating, don't let him do it to you.

Number 2: He may say some nice things to you... but don't get sucked in. It's hard when it's really nice to hear them... but if he really really felt them, and wanted you, then he would have left his girlfriend ages ago.

He wants his cake and the icing too... don't let yourself be treated this way... he will treat you the same way - you have had the advantage of having a warning - you have seen how he operates - cheating/lying etc... use this knowledge to keep yourself away from him.

It may have felt great at times... he may have said the greatest things to you... but if he lies, then how do you know he's not lying to you just to get what he wants?

(Sorry, that sounded harsh...but I have been in your situation, and I got done over more than once... it's a harsh position to be in and have to deal with... but you are better without him!)

This guy is a worthless prick. You obviously like him, but you've done the right thing by letting him go. Don't bring him back, he has already shown what "scum" he is.

To me, this is clear cut. Don't be stupid, you know what will happen.

*note to sex* Never EVER hook up with greenerpaztures.

fruity what did he tell you last night when you were cutting off communication?? He told you exactly what you wanted to hear. How many times have you heard stories about the other woman in a relationship telling others that he is getting ready to leave his wife but that she is having a tough time and he doesn't want to leave her like that, etc....
I want you to think about it and I want you to think long and hard about it. If he really wanted you that bad he would have left his g/f a long long time ago. The man wants his cake and he wants to be able to eat it too. If you are not careful you will be the one to feed it to him.
Stop idealizing this situation in your head! Stop thinking about it as a fairytale. Starting thinking about what you would tell a friend who came to you with the same problem. That is usually the right advice to follow.

Fruity, I'm just going to echo what everyone else said. You made the right decision by telling him to basically fuck off. When you said this to him, he probably freaked, not wanting to lose this "good situation" he has with you AND his girlfriend so he told you exactly what you wanted to hear, that he was going to leave her. Guess what, he probably isn't going to leave her. He's most likely just saying that to get you to stay. Listen to the ones with experience on this. Went through the same situation myself, only his "real girlfriend" was the one who was 100 miles away or so. And sometimes I still don't think I'm totally over the asshole. It's not going to be easy for you, but you need to totally cut this guy off. He isn't worth the heartache. Cut him lose for good.

Sheet. Alot of females on this board. Don't see that on alot of forums. Are the males outnumbered? That would be cool. That way I could get 2 females. Coz I think they're all pretty in some way or another. Just so many nice ones... pretty hard to pick one. Call me a cheating scum... but 2 would be nice.

Originally posted by «ÇhäötïǤLüñätïÇ»@Aug 30 2003, 06:52 AM
Sheet. Alot of females on this board. Don't see that on alot of forums. Are the males outnumbered? That would be cool. That way I could get 2 females. Coz I think they're all pretty in some way or another. Just so many nice ones... pretty hard to pick one. Call me a cheating scum... but 2 would be nice.

Honestly, Mr. "lunatic" I find it hard to belive that you have made 116 posts without getting banned. To start, yes i will call you scum. It would appear that you have no respect for the women of this board. Does the fact that most of them could shit out a more intelligent post than that bother you in anyway?

Also, what makes you think you would have a chance with any of them? It sounds to me like you are about 15 years old. If you're older, then you need to grow up, little boy.

I wasn't trying to pick up any ladies here. How my sposed to do that? Download em to my hard drive. You take the internet too serious pal. And I haven't been banned coz I haven't done anything wrong. All I did so far is speak my mind.

You'll never understanding how to mod a board because you take it all this crap too serious. Lighten up fruitcake.

Fruity..girl u deserve better. Every girl deserved to be treated with respect..and he obvioulsy wasnt treating you or his gf at the time with it. you need a guy into you only..not one that cant make up his mind. you did the right thing..hopefully next time he will see what he loses when he lies to people. thas jus my 2 cents tho..good luck..

So did anything ever happen with this guy? Or were you saying that because of the distance nothing really happened?

I wouldn't imagine that you are the only girl he is seeing, and him claiming to be going to leave his girlfriend is just a ploy. Like DK said, he was just telling you what you wanted to hear.
If you really were that important to him he would have left his girlfriend as soon as he met you.

Why did you feel the need to 'confront' him about this? Was this what you were hoping for? Back him into a corner and force him to choose and hope that he chose you?
You know about the girlfriend, he lives in a different place, there are plenty of ways to avoid someone if you really want to.
He is going to do the 'right' thing? The right thing would have been to not pursue you for 2 years, for two years he has been determindly not doing the right thing, why would he suddenly do it now?
I imagine that this telling her will take a long time, and there will be many varied excuses as to why it hasn't happened yet. Her thretening suicide is usually the first one. This situation most likely will not change at all, he will just continue along as he is after all, he has gotten away with it this long why would he change.
Also, how fucking horrible must he really be to be doing this to his girlfriend for two years? That alone should tell you what sort of person he is.

Avoid him, or tell him not to leave her as you aren't interested.

Originally posted by greenerpaztures@Aug 29 2003, 11:36 AM
Fuck him. He sounds like a real dick. Or maybe you could go out with him and get him to buy you all kinds of stuff and screw around behind his back. Then dump him. Yeah, that's what I'd do.

That is a horrible thing to do, no matter what kind of a shithead this guy has been. To do that would mean that she was as bad as he is.
Walk away and forget him, at least that way you will still have some self-respect.