Thread: Can anyone explain why a guy would do this??

me personally? im married, but when i wasnt i used to go out every weekend with which ever girl i was intrested in that said they where free.. and during the week if the girls were free during the week.

guys dont date just one girl.. unless they really find one that they are into then we slow things down and get serious as time goes by.

but, I guess some guys who never have a girls intrest before would just be like yeah i'll date you.

most guys see it as a test to see how long it will take before we get a girl into bed. thats the fun of it but, when you find the right girl you know like shes perfect for you,n once you get her in the bed you dont wanna let her go so easy and you fall in love but mainly most guys are in lust mode the first 3-5 months we are with a girl.

so, over that time you have a chance to fall inlove with who ever your with hopefully everything works out and you end up being together the rest of your life if not then you move on with your life right?

incase i confused you with my answer...guys know we have to take you out on a few dates for you to get in bed with us... and trust me most guys like when we have to date you for a chance for that to happen. but im sure most guys wouldnt mind you asking them to come to bed.

Originally Posted by Gutter

me personally? im married, but when i wasnt i used to go out every weekend with which ever girl i was intrested in that said they where free.. and during the week if the girls were free during the week.

guys dont date just one girl.. unless they really find one that they are into then we slow things down and get serious as time goes by.

but, I guess some guys who never have a girls intrest before would just be like yeah i'll date you.

most guys see it as a test to see how long it will take before we get a girl into bed. thats the fun of it but, when you find the right girl you know like shes perfect for you,n once you get her in the bed you dont wanna let her go so easy and you fall in love but mainly most guys are in lust mode the first 3-5 months we are with a girl.

so, over that time you have a chance to fall inlove with who ever your with hopefully everything works out and you end up being together the rest of your life if not then you move on with your life right?

incase i confused you with my answer...guys know we have to take you out on a few dates for you to get in bed with us... and trust me most guys like when we have to date you for a chance for that to happen. but im sure most guys wouldnt mind you asking them to come to bed.

Man that makes tons of sense. So basically if the guy knows he has to do all that stuff how is the girl supposed to kno that the guy is just pretending??? ...I mean would u say that the guy is just pretending ?.... also, u said that guys test, so with that test, they will say whatever it takes? Like in my situation the guy started saying "man if your mom met me she wouldn't like me cuz I'm too ghetto, if my mom met you shed like you cuz u polite and sweet, lets say we were to get married or something" and also when he called me bk weeks after he got fired he told me he ddnt think id wanna talk to him anymore. So with all that being said do you think a guy who is testing would go THAT deep just so he can get me in bed ?? Like he started talking abt our future. He even told me one time I make him nervous.

Originally Posted by Rhazberri

So with all that being said do you think a guy who is testing would go THAT deep just so he can get me in bed ??

It really isn't that deep. Its just all talk. Its amazing the things guy will say if they think its going to get them laid.
I wouldn't believe anything unless he had action to back it up. And even then, i wouldn't be so sure.

um have open eyes when your in a realationship lust blinders suck for both sides cause some people might really believe that they love you until they wake up one morning and the realationship isnt what they though it was ....make a guy work for it, make them fall in love with you.. heeh.. nothings a sure thing..and every realitionship requires work, effort, and constant communication from both sides..

as for trying to figure out what a guy really wants..from you ask them or you can do what fruity said and wait for them to act on what they are feeling. same goes for you tho too if your really feeling someone you should act on it too.. ya know like dont be scared to show how you feel.. just know that theres always a chance of things not working out. you have to figure out what you want.. and then go from there. and dont settle for anything less then what you want.

Lol.. girl, a boy telling you you make him nervous is not deep. It's actually pretty shallow.

daaaaamn, id like to know what/how this guy acted/did to have your panties in a twisty all over him

Because it's really easy to say and not mean. Like "Girls melt when their guy gets vulnerable around them, if I tell her she makes me nervous she'll think I'm sensitive and sweet and I'll be in." Even if he was telling the truth, he might not necessarily mean it in a sweet way, he could mean it in a "you make me nervous because what if you say no to my advances and I don't get laid?" sort of way.

Yes, he could mean it in a sweet way. But he could also be playing you. That's all I'm saying, is to look at both sides and not let him sweet talk you to the point where you're blinded by his charm.

I mean, think about this.... he was telling you that you were 'wife material' after he only knew you for two months. Do you think two months is long enough to know someone and be able to tell what 'material' they are?! Of course not, it takes longer than that-- to say it that quickly means it's easy for him to say. And if that kind of compliment is easy for him to say, then others are easy to say for him, too. He sounds like a sweet-talker who'll say anything he thinks will flatter you, not like someone who is genuine. Genuine people just do not move that fast.

Anyway.. it's all according to context. Like if you meet a boy who's genuine, he'll move slowly and he'll call you at the right times and won't leave you hanging etc.. and then when he compliments you, you'll be able to know he means it because he acts like he means it, too. Whereas if you have a guy who's telling you every compliment he ever heard of, like this guy, you can tell he's faking because why would he say things that easily if he really meant them? If he starts out by calling you wife material after two months then automatically you should know that anything else he says is also an exaggeration and he's just sweet talking you.

Context, context, context. If we were talking about a different guy then maybe I would say "aaaw you make him nervous, that's adorable." But we're not talking about a different guy, we're talking about this guy. So I think that for this guy, it's shallow.

Originally Posted by Rhazberri

I really dont know. I guess cuz he was the first guy to ever show attention like that to me, even if it was fake attention. And that he never liked me he just wanted to fuck me according to EVERYONE on this entire message board.

I wouldn't really class it as FAKE attention. Attention from guys who want to bang you is still real attention.

Attention was always the best way to get to me as well. We are probably very similar. I was a sweet innocent young woman who saw the best and everyone and thought everyone was as genuine as me. I couldn't understand why someone would lie to me about anything, so i just assumed everything was the truth. It was always so exciting to have any guy pay me any sort of attention. maybe deep down i didn't think i deserved it, and that for someone to give it to me, they must really really like me.

Anyway, I've been played in my time. Something chronic. Not everyone is who they say to be. Some people will say anything to get what they want. Some people say what they think you want to hear to get your attention, but the don't mean it. and some guys stick around for years on the off chance that one day you'll cave and sleep with them. Amongst it all, there has to be some good guys, but the time you find them, you'll probably end up being jaded and cynical.