Thread: Can anyone explain why a guy would do this??

No deal, he got other things going on, I would recomend you would find other things/people too.

its a myth that players give up so quickly. You'd be surprised at how some of them have amazing staying power.
Are you even interested in him? you say several times how he said he was interested in you, but you never say whether you are interested in him.
Anything could have happened, maybe he lost your number, maybe they cut off his phone. who knows? did you try callin him?
I'd say cut your losses and move on. You don't have too much invested in a relationship with him.
Why did he get fired?

Originally Posted by Chandra

He's been cheated on, he has a baby's mama, he smokes weed, and he just got fired.

Thank God he hasn't called back!

Ditto.

There are other fish in the sea. Regardless that you have feelings for him, you are making a lousy choice if you pursue him. He needs time to get his shit together. If you get involved with him and keep holding on to him then you are just going to get caught up in his drama. At your own expense.

Do your thing, forget him, and when someone else comes along then seriously look at him for what he is. Then decide if you would like to become involved.

agreed with the others. move along, nothing to see here.

Dude sounds like loser... Move on

he'd tell me things like im wife material, tell me i take his mind off his baby mama who cheated on him, he could see us 2gether.

In addition to all the stuff about him seeming like a bit of a loser perhaps, this is all pretty weird stuff to say to some girl you've barely talked to out of work. Talking about meeting each others parents, and quitting smoking weed for you before he's ever seen you out of work?! Way to take things way too many steps at once. Never trust anyone that starts right in with that kind of stuff - it just means you can't take anything they say seriously because they don't put much thought or consideration into the things they say and just talk a lot of talk and promises. people like that are more about saying something nice right now regardless of whether it's likely to work out that way. You didn't know him outside work and he's telling you you're wife material. I think it says far more about him than what he could possibly have known about you.

Also, "you take my mind off the other girl who cheated" is also kind of an admission that he is preoccupied with this other girl. He sounds like the kind of guy that likes to always have a woman so if he's not calling you I am betting he's calling his ex or someone else.

IF YOU'RE INTERESTED, CALL HIM.

I fucking hate when girls pull this shit and complain about it later.

Have some fucking self-confidence and call him. Christ, your lack of confidence is why you're even in this stupid situation. You've just wasted two weeks of your life wondering when a five-minute phone call would have cleared it up. You wasted your own stupid time.

I was going to go into a longer rant, but I think I'll leave it at that. Fuck.

Also, he sounds like a fucking winner.

Edit: Stay in school. You need it.

Originally Posted by The Viking

IF YOU'RE INTERESTED, CALL HIM.

I fucking hate when girls pull this shit and complain about it later.

Have some fucking self-confidence and call him. Christ, your lack of confidence is why you're even in this stupid situation. You've just wasted two weeks of your life wondering when a five-minute phone call would have cleared it up. You wasted your own stupid time.

I was going to go into a longer rant, but I think I'll leave it at that. Fuck.

Also, he sounds like a fucking winner.

Edit: Stay in school. You need it.

How can I call him when he damaged his phone so it isnt on anymore...he just calls ME from random #'s....

a guy that can't give you a permanent phone number, is usually cheating on someone else.

Originally Posted by Fruity

a guy that can't give you a permanent phone number, is usually cheating on someone else.

I second this quote.

From the sound of the story, it sounds like he is a player. He is playing with your head by pretending to be emotionally invested or whatever you want to call it by talking about stuff that would not be normal given your very limited relationship with him.

It sounds like what everyone else has already said anyways, that if you pursued anything with this guy, it would be not good for you. He doesn't seem to have it all together.

I would say that even if you are even a little bit interested in him to just forget about it. If he really was interested enough or he wasnt keeping you as a back up for something or you are the other woman or whatever hes doing, something would have happened between the two of you already.... its been five months already if I recall correctly.

The different phone numbers scenario should have already queued the warning sign alarm... I think there are better fish out there for you. I hope it works out well for you in the end.

I like how you ignore EVERYTHING that was said except for Viking, because he told you to call him. This guy is super shady. And I'm sure you know that.

But you'll hook up with him, anyway, because you want to. You don't actually want any advice. You just want everyone to tell you how much he wants you and how perfect he is for you.