Thread: Hard to get or flat out uninterested?

I think a text saying happy holidays is fine, but don't call again. If she hasn't gotten back to you by now then she's just not that into you, sorry. The ball is in her court. You don't want to be creepy.

Now you should play hard to get right back. You've tried twice, it's now her turn, and you should make her try at least twice too. Otherwise she'll get bored. Blank her when you next see her, or at least seem uninterested, that'll get her attention and you'll probably find she drops you a text.

Good luck.

Wow that isn't a mind fuck at all!

I know, it's terrible right? Such deception and manipulation...

...but it works.

No. Your friends are dumb. Don't say anything just yet, but if she happens to be online (do the two of you have Facebook?), shoot her a quick message around the holidays when you're both on. Ask her how her break is, tell her your family is driving you crazy (even if they're not). She may say her family is driving her nuts, too, in which case chat about that for a brief moment. After that, ask her when she's getting back to school, tell her when you're getting back to school, wish her a happy rest-of-break, and don't say anything else until you get back to school.

Don't creep around online after her, and don't message her more than that one time. Let her chase for a bit. She may very well send you a message or a text, especially if you've both said something about families driving you nuts. Just take those conversations as you normally would, but don't bother with any long, drawn-out conversations about life, the universe and everything. Take your time, though; no need to rush when you have a class together next semester (hell, even if you didn't have a class together there'd be no need to rush).

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Actually, fuck it. Editing. If you really want to put fuel on the fire, gauge how the conversations (online, text, phone call) go. If there's a decent conversation going, feel absolutely free to drop the subtle-hammer. At some point, tell her what you're looking forward to most about the holidays. Christmas dinner. Your New Year's Plans. Seeing a cousin. Whatever, just pick something that you like from the holiday and say you're excited for it. Then, ask her what she's looking forward to the most over break. See how the conversation's going and ask follow-up questions if necessary ("When's the last time you saw your cousins?" "What's the best New Year's you've ever had?"). After a question or so, tell her to ask you a question ("I've been asking all the questions, it's your turn!").

Make a game out of it. Answer her question, then make her answer her own question, too. Then, come up with some seemingly random, innocuous question ("Favorite type of Christmas cookie?"). Keep going back and forth with the questions, but keep shifting them away from the holidays and into her as a person. Ask about favorite books, movies, color, anything you want. Move away from the favorites, start asking about the one vacation she wants to go on, what food she hated as a kid. Anything you can think of, just make sure the two of you are trading off with asking/answering questions.

I honestly have fun doing this, and not even for any malicious/deceptive purposes. It's fun getting to know women. In addition, it can be done at your leisure; it doesn't take long to fire off a quick text message asking a new question or answering really quick. You'll both get to know each other, and in most cases, she'll be pretty hooked by the time the end of break rolls around. When break's over and it's your turn to ask a question, a simple "Want to go out for dinner?" and you're done. As a bonus, if you've been paying attention (NOTE: PAY ATTENTION), you'll already know her favorite types of food / where to take her for the date, as well as what to talk about and what to avoid.

You're welcome.