Thread: Is it possible?

gut says NO.

what kind of relationship are we talkin bout? i assume it's a romantic one, being in the dating forum and all. so then i'd have to reiterate, NO.

friendship, sure. different animal tho.

It depends where you are in your life and what you are looking for. If you are looking for something long term to reach into the physical world, the odds are against you. If you want a little ego soothing, some practice at communication and the opportunity to gain a bit more understanding into relationships and the opposite sex then yes it is feasible.

However the reality is that most online dating situations don't work out. Yes some do, but they are not the yardstick that you can measure against.

A lot of different factors go into it. Are you chatting with someone that is 20 miles down the road or across the country or even in another country? The further away you are, the chances of success go down exponentially. There are just too many challenges - meeting, safety, patience, pining away for them when not with you, relocation, life upheaval, leaving family and friends behind etc.

It's hard to answer such a vague question without more details, but if I were going to give a pat answer, I'd say no it really isn't all that possible. Even despite what I said in my first paragraph most people don't enter a relationship with the full acceptance that isn't going to go anywhere. Even if they know it in their heart, they usually convince themselves otherwise.

And I haven't even discussed the honesty aspect of online dating.

some people say yes, and some people say no because it is different for different people. It depends on who you are, the type of person you are, the type of relationship you are having, if its something long standing, that has a future, or if its something new, and you really aren't sure where its going.

Hey OrangeAura,

I wish you had left all that original detail in your post but short answer is yes but for how long? At some point, you'll have to decide what's next for the relationship.

Just try it and see.

I don't hear that there is anything to decide. Your relationship at this stage is going to be long distance for as long as that makes sense, right? There is no answer anybody can give as to how long that will work for either of you so all you can do is enjoy it for now knowing that it can't work indefinitely.

I think of an LD relationship as a plane in a holding pattern. At some point it needs to land. Or find another airport.