Thread: he likes me, I like him but he's still with his girlfriend?

Back off of him. If he wanted to be with you he would. He's having his cake and eating it too. He's got a girlfriend to be with and you to stroke his ego.

I'll put it to you this way. Why do you want to be with a guy that cheats - even if only emotionally instead of physically - on his girlfriend?

Well in essence though he is cheating on her. He's keeping you on the side while he stays with her.

Set higher standards for yourself.

hmm would you date two boys at the same time?

Originally Posted by rubytuesday

Back off of him. If he wanted to be with you he would. He's having his cake and eating it too. He's got a girlfriend to be with and you to stroke his ego.

I'll put it to you this way. Why do you want to be with a guy that cheats - even if only emotionally instead of physically - on his girlfriend?

This, this, this. A thousand times this.

Let me put it to you this way. If he's willing to go behind his girlfriend's back like this, because he's 'confused,' then he's willing to do the same to you. Do you know what honest people do when they get confused? They talk about it with their current SO and try to figure things out, or they break up altogether. They don't start going after another girl at the same time, leaving the SO in the dark. Just think about how she feels, and how you'd feel if your boyfriend did that to you. Why would you want to be with a guy willing to treat his gf that way?

Don't let yourself get taken in by this guy. He can do it to you just as easily as he's doing it to her, and I know that from personal experience.

And yes, it is cheating. People in monogamous relationships don't tell other girls that they'll be together in the future. If that's the case, the break-up should have already happened. You shouldn't be desperate for a guy like this, you should be running away from all the red flags. Please, do have higher standards for yourself. You deserve a better guy than this, and you deserve to actually be a girlfriend, not a girl-on-the-side-just-in-case or a girl-I'm-dating-for-now-while-I'm-on-a-break. Or a girl-I-like-while-I'm-confused.

I'm a guy, and here's what's going to happen based on what I personally know about guys like this.

He'll break up with his girlfriend with some BS line like "we dont have enough chemistry" or something, and then he'll start dating you.

Once you guys are dating for awhile he'll notice some other girl and start talking to her behind your back.
He'll tell her he loves her and will promise her that they will be together but that he just doesn't know when.

Then he'll tell you that you guys need to break up because there just isnt enough chemistry anymore, and a week later you'll see that other girl on his arm.

Then you'll wish you'd never bothered.

So dont bother.

He's just keeping you on the hook as a back up plan if things don't work out with the girlfriend. even then, you can't guarantee that you'll be the one he gets with. Like other people have said, you are there to stroke his ego and make him feel good about himself.

I really wouldn't bother with such a person

hahaha. ahhh. yeah, you wanna make sure that you're all on the same page as far as casual dating, options, etc.

i dated a few guys at once, but they all knew it. it was awesome.

and now i'm marrying the best of the bunch

Originally Posted by Esternogligen

I'm a guy, and here's what's going to happen based on what I personally know about guys like this.

He'll break up with his girlfriend with some BS line like "we dont have enough chemistry" or something, and then he'll start dating you.

Once you guys are dating for awhile he'll notice some other girl and start talking to her behind your back.
He'll tell her he loves her and will promise her that they will be together but that he just doesn't know when.

Then he'll tell you that you guys need to break up because there just isnt enough chemistry anymore, and a week later you'll see that other girl on his arm.

Or Option 2) he gets back with his ex-girlfriend.

Girl, liking and loving someone are true different things. He might like you yes, but it doesn't mean he wants romantic relationship with you. Or maybe, he's just lying.