Thread: His girlfriend..

I'd probably leave it alone. Its usually best to not confess your love to people while they are in a relationship. you just have to trust that if they didn't want to be with that person, then they wouldn't be

hm thats not really true fruity alot of people dont let go of a relationship cause they scared no one else is out there to love em, while others just are waiting for something better to come there way.

I think those people are dumb. They deserve to be in dead end relationships if they aren't willing to risk being alone to create the opportunity to meet someone amazing.
I would find it very disrespectful if someone shared their feelings fully aware i was in a relationship.

You blew it. Should have made the move when you had the chance. There's a reason for the old adage "Strike when the iron is hot".

Move on......

What is he meant to do with the information? I don't see what good can come from telling him while he is in a relationship.

It's been a year. A whole year. Honestly? I don't see what the point of telling him would be. If he still cared about you at all, you would have heard from him in the past year-- but he hasn't said anything to you. He probably stopped replying because he felt that it was compromising his fidelity to his girlfriend. When I stop talking to someone, it's generally for a reason. He probably has a reason, too.

If I hadn't spoken to someone in a year, and they looked me up and called me and confessed their undying love, I'd be a little creeped out. If they did it while knowing I was in a committed relationship, I'd be creeped out and annoyed. It hurts, but you're going to have to get over him. A year?! Honestly.. if he wanted anything, he'd have kept in touch with you, but he hasn't. Don't cling to someone who does not want you.

Originally Posted by Tia

It's been a year. A whole year. Honestly? I don't see what the point of telling him would be. If he still cared about you at all, you would have heard from him in the past year-- but he hasn't said anything to you. He probably stopped replying because he felt that it was compromising his fidelity to his girlfriend. When I stop talking to someone, it's generally for a reason. He probably has a reason, too.

If I hadn't spoken to someone in a year, and they looked me up and called me and confessed their undying love, I'd be a little creeped out. If they did it while knowing I was in a committed relationship, I'd be creeped out and annoyed. It hurts, but you're going to have to get over him. A year?! Honestly.. if he wanted anything, he'd have kept in touch with you, but he hasn't. Don't cling to someone who does not want you.

one of my friends married a girl that did what you just said. he didnt find it creepy.

i'd be really uneasy being without someone who I confessed my love to and immediately dumped their partner to be with me. That means they've been in a relationship, just for the sake of being in a relationship with someone they didn't particularly like, and didn't leave until they guaranteed they had something else to go to.