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    Theres two guys that want to date me. The first guy is called Luke. Hes good looking, smart, funny and he treats me like a princess. But hes my best friend. Dating him could ruin our friendship and if we broke up id lose him as a friend. I dont really feel anything when i kiss him but maybe its because im so familiar with him. I can be myself when im around him and i dont think i want the dynamic of our relationship to change cos id have to impress him and act differently and stuff. The second guy is called Fraser. He's lovely, cute and smart but hes not great around girls. He runs out of conversation easily because he’s not had much experience around girls. Whenever im at his house we just watch films and kiss. He doesnt really talk to me and sometimes i feel like hes just using me although i dont think thats the type of guy he is. He crosses boundaries when we're kissing a lot and that makes it seem like hes using me more. But when he kisses me i really feel something. He can be arrogant and condescending and has some issues which really annoy me. I cant decide who i want to date or if i should even date them at all! There offers have been standing since november so its getting pretty urgent. Hoping someone will make me see sense? Thanks

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    Don't date either of them. Its ok to be single.
    Luke is your best friend and you are worried about losing his friendship. Usually I'd say that perhaps exploring a relationship with a good person could lead to something better. But you are already kissing him, so i think you are just making excuses to not be with him. If you have to make excuses, then you shouldn't waste their time. If you want to just be friends with someone, don't kiss them.
    You feel like Fraser is using you, and he's corssing boundaries already. I wouldn't even bother. Guys that cross boundaries early in the relationship are always going to cross them. Usually whatever you are giving them will never be enough. You deserve better than to feel used.
    Trust your instincts. I think if you haven't accepted either offer in two months, then your instinct is to be with neither of them. And that's ok.
    True beauty is an exchange, not an observation. - Lucid Rog

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