Thread: This Strong Feeling

OK this is a bit of a complicated situation,or maybe i am making this more complicated than it is but i will try to explain.

There is this guy that i've been talking to (as friends) that has been liking me for more than 6 months now, (that is what he says) ,but he never really TOLD me anything. I found out , because of course im not stupid, and my friend also confirmed it, since he confessed it to her.

The thing is, we always talk about the "girl" he likes (which would be myself). When i ask him who it is, he says he cant tell me.

In one of these conversations he told me how it all started, he said in the beginning he didnt like "the girl" and just wanted to get with her because she rejected him in the past (long story, he didnt ask me out, it was just a one day thing) and he wanted to prove to himself he could get her because he had never gotten rejected before...

but then as he got to know "her", he started liking "her" , and now he feels something very strong for "her", and he told me that his friends tell him he is "in love".

We basically talk about these things online, because when i see him, he just doenst talk to me at ALL.... and he is not a shy guy at all.

Sometimes i really think he likes me, and what he is saying is true..but his "past" gives me some doubts..he "was" a player... so now i am kind of scared...plus there is more to it...

In another of our conversations about "the mysterious girl he likes" he told me that his best friend (my guitar teacher) started liking her too!

Ok that was not suspicious, but then he started telling my friend (that sent me the convo later) that maybe it was better if his friend got with her, because his friend was such a nice guy, liked the same things she did, and could teach "the girl" guitar... and how he is not "her" type at all...he was almost pushing me to his friend...

I dont know , he is a pretty "conceited" guy, so i thought that attitude kind of weird... i mean...if it was me that STRONGLY liked a guy like that and my best friend started liking him, i dont think i'd be that OK with it... I mean, they are now both hitting on me... i dont think thats right for the second guy to do..but anyway back to the topic...

He told me, that he going to tell "the girl" he likes "her", but he is about to go to vacation for about a month and we wont get to see each other... I think that i like him , he's been so sweet and appearently likes me so much, the problem is, sometimes i think he really likes me, and sometimes i just think he is trying to get me to like him so he could just reject me like i did to him? i dont know, maybe i am going nuts here...because 6 months IS a long time.. i dont think he'd waste all this time if he didnt like me...right? what do you guys think?

Thanks

Originally posted by LunaDellAMORE@Jun 24 2004, 10:38 PM
How would you feel if you liked this guy/girl ALOT, your friend KNOWS about it, then your* friend starts to like the guy/girl and starts hitting on him/her, would you be ok with it?

I'd be so pissed off, and I'd start swinging.

Seriously though, it is safe to wait it out until he gets the guts, or you can be the brave one and say, "hey, I think this "girl" you've been talking about may be me. If it's not, I'm sorry, but could you clarify things with me?"

And if it is you, then you'll be with him that much sooner (if that is your intention). If you talk to him and he doesn't give you a straight answer, he may be too chicken or can't handle a girl right now.

Sure, the ball may be in both courts, but do you want to wait for him to serve, or would you rather take it and ace it?