Thread: Am I too picky?

Originally posted by Satisfied@Jun 25 2004, 08:17 PM
Just cause your in a relationship, doesn't mean you have to be attached at the hip and be totally involved in eachothers interests.

Speedy, would you expect your g/f to go all your race meets?

Wouldn't you like to have something where you can enjoy with your mates mainly and sometimes your g/f joins in?

I would want my girlfriend to be racing with me. There are plenty of boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife couples that race, either sharing the same car, or seperate vehicles. As someone said on another forum (jokingly), it essentially cuts your race budget in half, and even if you lose, you still get to see her naked.

I know couples who do everything together, and they still have time for their friends, like the one couple I referenced earlier. They've been going out since November, and I don't think I've seen him without her since then. Normally most guys would complain about that when it happens to one of their friends, but shes almost like one of us (except really hot!!). Shes fun to hang out with, we get along great, they go to pretty much all the races together, etc. Its great to see them like that, but its almost upsetting because its exactly like what I've wanted for so long, and the friend I'm around most often is the one that ends up in that kind of relationship.

I think some of you are misinterpreting a bit what I'm saying. I'm not saying I want a girl whos interests are EXACTLY like mine, but the one that is most important is that way for a reason. I guess I just haven't found a reason to want a relationship where the girl isn't interested in something that makes up such a big part of my life.

Another thing occured to me today while I was spectating at a sports car race. The few girls around the paddock all had boyfriends, and they were all racers. Rich, powerful, alpha males, who could get any girl they want. The racing they do is much more exciting, intense, and more expensive than the level I'm currently at. Theres something to be said about a guy who goes 200 mph just inches from other cars, but the racing I do involves going through cones at 40 mph, one car at a time. Real dangerous huh?

But of course, if I ever became one of them professional racers, I'd probably brush aside any pit groupies because they weren't there around me when I started. Then I don't know what kind of girl I would want. Maybe I subconsciously get my kicks from punishing myself by having goals that I can never hope to aspire to.

I've been thinking way too hard today, and all of it is very confusing.

I don't think its selfish. One of the problems I'd have is trying to push my interests off on a girl. It would be so much easier if I didn't have to do that, because she already liked some of the stuff I do.

The more I've been thinking about it this weekend, the more I've decided the best option would be to find a girl who wants to get into racing and cars and all that stuff but didn't know anyone who could introduce her to it. That way I could have fun teaching her everything I know without feeling like I'm pushing it on her.