Thread: Am I too picky?

I'm not sure if you are that picky....I think that everyone has this one thing that they'd want their bf/gf to have interest in... in my case i'd love if i found a guy with the same musical interest i have, so we could go to concerts together, listen to music.. but i believe the guy doesnt need to LOVE it like I do for the relationship to work... if the guy just tolerates it and would go to concerts with me because he knows i like it (without making any "i hate this" faces) it'd be fine with me! I guess if you start thinking a bit like that you might find a girl that , even if she isnt nuts about racing , she'd still go with you and be more interested about it because she likes you and she knows its important to you...

But that is just my opinion!

speedy

Lets get married.

Ive never been able to find a guy who actually WANTS me to know anything about cars or racing, they all get intimidated...its sad well okay, I've found mine, so its not so sad anymore, except he doesnt like cares, its okay though.

But, its not impossible...all the girls here LOVE going to the races, they're there every friday/saturday...well not all of them....just the ones I hang out with...most of them only know "oooh that cars pretty and fast" and that they want their boyfriend to win...they dont care about times, or specs or anything, or why one car should technically win over another...but atleast they want to be there right? So just keep looking, and you're not being too picky. Its only natural that if you LOVE something, and have a passion, you'd want to find someone who atleast even sort of enjoys it and is interested in it.

All people are like that...it'd be different if you liked to do racing once every 6 months and wouldnt go out with a girl if she didnt want to...but its something you do a lot of the time, and love to do...so its normal you'd want to find someone who'd share that interest with you.

Having differences and being your own person does have its merits, Speedy. It helps you both grow more and become more well-rounded in general.

Like I used to not know anything about Hula and Hawaiian culture. I still know very little, but I've learned and experienced all kinds of cool shit from my girlfriend. I go to her little Hula get-togethers every once in a while, and they're just awesome. The way she can move her body in those hot hula dresses makes me feel funny in my pants.

And I'm not much into racing, but I'm totally into classic cars, and I always have been. I'm sure she's learned quite a bit from listening to me ramble about them aswell.

I dunno, having different interests can be a blast. You don't want to date a carbon copy of yourself, do you?

Originally posted by Stairs@Jun 25 2004, 03:09 AM
I dunno, having different interests can be a blast. You don't want to date a carbon copy of yourself, do you?

thats true...but I think if theres something you REALLY like, and its your main interest, and you do it ALL the time...you have to find someone who wants to do it with you, or atleast get somewhat interested in you

if he found a girl who didnt like racing, and didnt want anything to do with it..then he'd have to choose between the thing hel oves to do, and this girl..its better to find someone who will atleast GO with him, at the very least no?

Hey Speedy, I think to really help you, you'd need to understand the meaning of compromising..

It's the only way you'd know if u really are picky.. It depends on how much u are willing to compromise with your partner.. And how much u willing to give in return..
It's not always about what u want, but what's important to both u and your partner.. And how much of it you'd want to share..

Just my opinion anywayz.. Hope it helps..

Speedy man I hate to break this to you, but relationships are all about compromise.....you are inevitably going to have to do something you don't want to do because your g/f / wife enjoys it.

Originally posted by Speedy+Jun 25 2004, 10:48 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Speedy @ Jun 25 2004, 10:48 AM)</div>

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@Jun 25 2004, 09:06 AM
Speedy man I hate to break this to you, but relationships are all about compromise.....you are inevitably going to have to do something you don&#39;t want to do because your g/f / wife enjoys it.

LA LA LA I CAN&#39;T HEAR YOU!!!



I know what you mean, I&#39;m just talking about the degree of compromise.

Example. Two of my co-workers have been dating for three years now. They broke up once (surprisingly only once) for about a week last year. When I was talking to him, one of the things he mentioned was how nice it was to go home and just be able to work on his car, or go to the drag strip, behind he wasn&#39;t held back by the fiancee who wanted him to do all this other stuff. I asked him why he didn&#39;t just go find a girl who is into that stuff, that way he wouldn&#39;t have to choose been having fun his way or being with the woman. He said I had a point, but of course he went back to his fiancee, even though there are so many reasons why their relationship is doomed to fail. I&#39;m not talking about interests, but career aspirations, desire for children, religious background, etc.

Theres another couple I&#39;m friends with, both big into racing. Yes he has to compromise by doing things hes not into, and same for her, but they still have the time to go to races. In fact, they&#39;ve been to more so far this year than I have! She&#39;s a very cool girl, I&#39;m jealous that hes found someone great like that and I haven&#39;t. I still support them 100%, however, I&#39;ve blocked out any thoughts of her being more than just one of the group of friends so I could shoot down any possibility of my jealousy becoming personal and potentially ruining things. I even went the extra mile to keep his ex (high school sweetheart) from ruining things once she got jealous he moved on. They are a great couple, and alot of that I attribute to the fact they can do anything together.

Does this make sense DK or am I still off-base in my thinking? [/b]

I see what you are saying. Relationships are give and take. If you go into a relationship it cannot just be about you anymore. If you want that then stay single. It is a great thing to be able to go home and do your own thing, but if you are with someone, that may not always be possible.
Don&#39;t get me wrong, it isn&#39;t easy. I am married and I am still having trouble with it. I want to go home pop in a DVD or turn on my playstation and my wife wants me to do other things. It does suck, but sometimes that is the price you have to pay for being in a relationship. I don&#39;t think it is quite possible to find someone to likes to do the same exact things that you like to do. I mean everyone is different right?
If you really care for someone shouldn&#39;t you go out of your way to do the things they enjoy doing?

My girlfriend and I have some common interests. Although, it sometimes can mean trouble for the realtionship. One time while playing Risk, she totally pulled a pincer attack through a neutral nation after we agreed not to. After several hours of intense negotiations, she agreed to pull her forces from Poland if I would halt agressions against Central America. Then came the make-up sex. Yeah, diplomacy really turns her on.

haha Saint....board games and sex...gotta love it....

Does it count as prostitution if you&#39;re using Monopoly Money??

Anyway, as far as the post goes, i&#39;m with the opposites attract crowd, but then again I have an odd personality...

I thrive off of confrontation and stuff like that. Not so much arguing, but debating....one of the things I have to be able too do with a girl is have a serious debate over politics, or religion or stuff like that. Most of the girl I date have similar views on some things but on most we are opposites...

But then again, I am also a very sarcstic, smartass type...i pick fights with people just for the sake of arguing...i find debating stimulating and entertaining

Why does the man from the board game "Operation" have no pee pee? He Has nooo Scrumdidlyumcious...nooo Cash and Prizes.. nooo BaGALK