Thread: Appropriate v. Inappropriate

Hmm. I just realized I left something out. She was fully clothed, but still grabbing her boobs. Does this change anyone's vote? I wasn't sure if I implied that she was naked or something. She definitely was not.

Bonus points: My sister (13) also posted a picture with her and my other little sister (9 years old) where the 13 year old sister is flipping off the camera. I lectured her and she took it down. I found it rude and not something that I would allow my 13 year old daughter to do. Do you think I have unreasonable expectations?

Doesn't change my vote - I figured she was clothed. I didn't think Facebook would allow people to post nude pics.

And no you don't have unreasonable expectations. As a culture, we have oversexualized our children in the name of the almighty dollar. Sex sells and kids are not immune. This is not a good thing.

I voted I would not be Okay with it.

Unfortunately though - those two aren't doing anything any different from most kids in that age group, and they're not really acting any differently than kids that age always have. The only difference now is that it's on the internet.

But, at 13, you don't understand the magnitude of something being on the internet. Chance are you also don't understand what it implies to grab your boobs and stick out your tongue. You probably also think you're being pretty bad-ass by flipping off the camera for all your friends to see.

It's one of those grey areas. We understand it's inappropriate and that you don't do things like that, especially at that age. However, I don't believe they do it and fully understand...they're just goofing off and having fun.

So while I don't think you have unrealistic expectations, I think if you are to broach the subject again, whether it be with your sisters or Isabelle in the future...you have to try and do it in a way they would understand...because they likely don't see why it's such a big deal quite yet.

I agree with Pseudo. Oh my Lord I'd have a freakin' heart attack and go ballistic if my daughter (who is 10 1/2) posted either of those kinds of pictures. I don't care what girls her age are doing or not doing (within reason) - she's not allowed to disrespect herself on my watch.

My God, talk about a quick way to piss Momma off.

Coincidentally enough, part of Obama's speech today touched on facebook and how kids need to be aware that whatever they put on there could come back to haunt them later.

I called my mom today and talked to her about it. She said she had no idea. My sister took down the pictures almost immediately after I lectured her. My mom said, "Don't ever be afraid to tell me if you see something on there that concerns you." And while I don't mind doing that, I think it's more important that my mom monitors her facebook page. My sister is a pretty good kid, but she's at that age where she just wants to fit in. I wish that my mom knew how to help her kids build confidence. I would LOVE it if they had that kind of confidence that made them just not give a shit about what everyone else does. In fact, I would really love how to do that for my daughter.... Any advice?

Anyway, I'm glad that I wasn't out of line with this. I know that I'm super protective and super strict in a lot of areas.

some parents really do need to whup their kids

Originally Posted by Satisfied

Nothing wrong with being super protective and strict. If you don't do it for your kids no one else will.

Except when they go nuts at any chance of freedom they get, and then go even crazier when they get to college. Fastest way to a rebellious child is to smother them with rules and over-protectiveness.

Just my thoughts. I grew up watching all the over-protected kids with strict parents run their lives into the ground. Like seriously...I can't think of one kid who didn't. They're all on drugs, have babies, or are just losers..or all three.

As for me- I had no rules but I watched my brother run his life into the ground as a result, so I turned out fine from watching what not to do.

Moderation is the key! Actually, I don't know, I'm not a parent. I just know I'd do what psuedo says and put a good dose of shame in my daughter if she posted dumb semi-slutty pictures on the INTERNET. A dose of modesty is a learning experience

Don't you have to be added as friend to view someones photo's on Facebook?
Regardless, to me theres a difference between being over protective and not wanting sexually provocative pictures of your 13 year old daughter online. Clothed or not.
In answer to your question. Yes, i do think its inappropriate.
In fact the chances are...theres no fucking way id let my 13 year old daughter have a Facebook account. Phones were invented for a reason.