Thread: Wedding Questions

Ahh I think as long as you don't wear anything which displays what you had for breakfast, you'll be fine. I don't think you should focus on the 'Christian' thing when you're deciding what you wear - you should focus on what the specified dress code is. Maybe not huge cleavage but you never know - I've been shocked at Church before and I'm not a prude.

Everything is a must when you move in together for the first time, haha. If they have a registry that makes it pretty easy, you don't have to even think about it! In terms of money, it depends on how old they are, how old you are, how well off you are. I don't know - I prefer not to give money to these things - but there are a lot of factors that you need to take into consideration. How close are they to you as friends? etc.

Our church bulletin had a bit of a lecture about appropriate clothes to wear to church, especially for weddings. The rule is if you can see down it, up it, or through it, don't wear it. I burst out laughing when i read that, just imagining my priest typing it up.
You say Christian and not Catholic, so you probably don't have to worry about flustered old celibate men being astounded about excessive cleavage, but I assume the same rule probably applies in most Christian churches. I know people who take a shawl or some sort of cover up to wear during the ceremony and take it off for the reception. But i guess that depends on how Christian the wedding is. I guess some people still apply that outside the church.

We got so many awesome gifts for our wedding. Frying pans, clocks, glasses, pizza stones, baking dishes, coffee tables. So much stuff i wouldn't hae even thought of, but have got so much use out of since living with my husband.
We also had cash gifts for anywhere between $30 and $2000. It all depends on your own budget. No matter what it is, i'm sure it will be greatly appreciated. We opened our gifts with some family around, and we opened our $2000 cheque, and it was such a surprise and totally unexpected, and the next gift was $30 from my aunt who was there when we opened it. I hope she didn't feel bad having her $30 follow up after $2000. But i know they don't have much, and just having them there meant so much.

I have heard that thing about not wearing white to a wedding. Its not a Christian rule anyway. That comes out of the bridal ettiquette book. I think black and white should be ok together though. Depends how much white you've got going on. And how uptight your bride is.
What sort of bachelorette party is she having? Mine was very tame, and most people got me kitchen things. Like wooden spoons, cake tins, sushi rollers. I made it very clear that I didn't want anything penis shaped. But everyone is different. Best thing to do is ask her what she would like, or if a bridesmaid is organising it, ask her what would be appropriate.

Originally Posted by True

Other question what is the deal with the bachlerette party? Do i bring a real gift or a gag gift and thats it? Also i have a feeling my friends mother is going to be there. So what would be an appropriate gift for this?

Thanks for the help!

i was at my step mom's bridal shower/ bachelorette party... and my fav thing someone got her (even tho it weirded me out) was they took a long white silky nightgown and packed it in a rinsed out vanilla icecream container... and gift wrapped some hershey's syrup, m&ms, whipped cream, etc.
even tho it sickens me to think of what goes on behind closed doors- that was a really creative and tasteful way to go.

Originally Posted by Fruity

I have heard that thing about not wearing white to a wedding. Its not a Christian rule anyway. That comes out of the bridal ettiquette book. I think black and white should be ok together though. Depends how much white you've got going on. And how uptight your bride is.
What sort of bachelorette party is she having? Mine was very tame, and most people got me kitchen things. Like wooden spoons, cake tins, sushi rollers. I made it very clear that I didn't want anything penis shaped. But everyone is different. Best thing to do is ask her what she would like, or if a bridesmaid is organising it, ask her what would be appropriate.

i think a black and white pattern would be fine. you can't show up the bride tho- and if you've known them for years, it should be ok.

also, i'd get them a french press. mmm.

hmm unless you're part of the church, i say express yourself however you want.

Yeah, I think it's important to respect people's beliefs, even if you don't share them. I don't think it's the right forum to make a statement.

Have you not been to many weddings? Or just not many religious weddings?

Unless you dress like a skank anyway I don't see why you need to worry about it so much. They're Christian, not Amish, they do dress like regular people, you know.