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Reply With Quoteif you are both clean i would suggest the pill- otherwise, just keep experimenting with other condoms, or let her put the condom on with her mouth
Hey, don't know if this is the right place to be posting this, but I need help with sex.. and quickly!
First of all, I'm a 16 year old (almost 17) male and my girlfriend is turning 16; our 1 Year Anniversary is May 24
Anyways, we've tried a few times in the past to have sex, but it never works out. The problem isn't that I can't get hard.. because she has no trouble making my penis erect. However, whenever I put a condom on and try to put it in my girlfriend, I lose my erection and can't seem to get it back (until later, when the condom is NOT on).
We will have the house to ourselves on Friday, and I would definitely like to be able to have sex with her on that night. This isn't something that bothers my girlfriend, she has told me not to worry about this "problem" and that she doesn't care that we don't have sex. We are deeply in love and really want this to happen though.. and it's embarassing for me, not being able to keep it up when we try and have sex.
Is there anything I can do? I was thinking of trying those Ultra-Fit condoms, that fit snuuger.. would that help?
Help is needed!
if you are both clean i would suggest the pill- otherwise, just keep experimenting with other condoms, or let her put the condom on with her mouth
Performance anixty maybe? Perhaps it has nothing to do with the condom, but once you get to the point of entry do you find yourself nervous? A bit anixty stricten to preform? It could of been the first time this happened it was just a fluke, you got nervouse, but since it happened you get OVERLY nervous of it happening agian, therefore you mentally set yourself up for failur because your trying so hard NOT to let it happen again?
I know comdoms desensize the whole in the vagina and feeling the vagina aspect of sex, but, your not even really getting it in, right? It happens when you are just about to start? Thats why im thinking it may be more mental.
However, maybe once you put the condom on it just descreases your sensitivity and your arent feeling much and just lose your erection. Maybe try the ultra thin condoms, i hear those are better for the guy and maintaining his sensitivity a bit better. And if your EVEN thinking of having sex without a condom you BETTER get her on birth control and BOTH get tested. And actually even if you are using condoms she should be on birth control to be a bit safer. You may want to invest in a 'cock ring' its a ring you sleep around your penis and it helps maintain your erection. And last but least try to relax a bit, dont get too worried.
Goodluck.
Well, I was nervous the first one or two tries, but since then we've tried about two more times and still to no avail.
Maybe it is nerves.. I don't know how I can get over that then?
I'm going to try a few different types of condoms as well, maybe that has something to do with it.. maybe not.
Wanting to not use a condom for more pleasure but wanting to use it to be safe screws things up, is the condom the right size? if it's too small on the diameter for you it might be the one not leting you stay hard. I don't really have any advice other than the one retro gave. Remember always use some sort of protection condom, pills, or both.
Good luck getting laid
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Do you guys engaged in oral sex or foreplay before you try to have sex? Sometimes just stroking a guy/girl isn't enough to get them completely turned on, I know I usually give my boyfriend head for a little bit before he gets the condom on to ensure that his erection stays in place.
spend some more time getting ready, get her to blind fold you or something...sounds kinky but its sure to set your senses off a bit more. Experiment. You'll find something that keeps it up for longer. Elastic bands are also an idea, but ffs, not too tight and remember to take it off! the last thing u want is your cock dropping off in the morning.
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start off without, get going a bit, and then pull out, put on the condom, and go to WORK son.
that'll get you hard enough that you are good to go.
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i have that problem sometimes. it sucks. no condom, dick works fine, vagina feels great. put that piece of fucking plastic on there and things don't work so well. difficult to stay hard when you can barely feel anything. I HATE CONDOMS.
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Alright.. well we went and bought condoms last night that were 20% less sensitive and they were more snug than any other condoms we tried.. I was able to get my penis in her finally .. but I couldn't stay hard enough to keep it in her for very long.
Should I go see a doctor? Because this is really frustrating and embarassing
Purchase a cock ring, it may help keep you hard.
yeah, i say go see a doctor. they'll know what's up and what you should do.Originally posted by yomomma17@May 29 2005, 02:39 AM
Alright.. well we went and bought condoms last night that were 20% less sensitive and they were more snug than any other condoms we tried.. I was able to get my penis in her finally .. but I couldn't stay hard enough to keep it in her for very long.
Should I go see a doctor? Because this is really frustrating and embarassing*
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she's not that kind of a girl, booger!
Once again lol, do you or your girlfriend engage in foreplay before you have sex? I'm guessing no?
Yeh, we do.
She usually sucks me off for a bit to get me hard.. but once the condom goes on - it all goes downhill! >.<
Well, i've had this problem also. Everything goes fine, until the condom gets whipped out!
But this is probably just me.
My girlfriend takes awhile to unrip the package, and check which side to put it on [The condom has that head thing for sperm]
So that usually caused me to lose erection, waiting for it to come on.
Or it's either I wasn't horny enough.
Or you masturbate too much and sex seems to be nothing new to you.
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