Alright, so i've been seeing this guy for the past little while. we aren't 'official' yet but i think it's going in that direction ..
so i'm a virgin, and i am definitely ready to have sex with him. the thing is though
a) he doesn't know i'm a virgin and i am planning on telling him but i'm not sure when i should do that .. literally right when its going to happen or ahead of time?
b) he's pretty experienced .. and makes jokes about how his roommates will probably tell me how bad he is in bed and shit. so that makes me a little sketched out, i mean i don't exactly know what i'm doing
things have been pretty hot and heavy between us .. we just haven't gone all the way. so if i'm good with all the foreplay does that mean i'll be good with the sex?? or is it a completely different ball game?
i'm also wondering if guys think of virgin girls as being a good thing? or a bad thing?
sigh .. everythings going so well i just dont want things to go wrong because of this
Tell him as soon as poss... not cos it's a 'big thing', but just cos communication is important...
If he's worth his salt, he'll be cool with that, and he'll feel privilaged to be poppin' your cherry.
P.s. Most guys would prefer to think you're a virgin and never had any other guy anywhere near ya anyways
<span style="color:blue">"In the eventide, it villifies... the moon pulls her aside, and tells her where to lie"</span>
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (PRChick @ Feb 7 2008, 11:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>This is not true.P.s. Most guys would prefer to think you're a virgin and never had any other guy anywhere near ya anyways
Inspirational quote on individuality #223: "Lately everyone I know/ has been shittin' all over me/ Hey you, and all of my good friends/ They disowned my fucking friends and me/ I guess it's because/ I gotta go off in my little own direction/ But fuck 'em all. I'll never follow./ They can suck on my erection." - Mr. GG Allin
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Tim @ Feb 7 2008, 09:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (PRChick @ Feb 7 2008, 11:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>This is not true.P.s. Most guys would prefer to think you're a virgin and never had any other guy anywhere near ya anyways
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Yeah i agree, but at the same time, i doubt he'll even care.
"I can picture in my mind a world without war, a world without hate. And I can picture us attacking that world, because they'd never expect it."
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE </div>heh, must be just the guys I've had serious relationships with then. The fuckbuddies never cared how not a virgin I was... but the guys I had more serious relationships with tended to be insecure about having several men preceed them.Yeah i agree, but at the same time, i doubt he'll even care.[/b]
But you guys should know... bein' guys n' all!
But I reckon he won't care about the virgin thing. Unless he's an arse.
<span style="color:blue">"In the eventide, it villifies... the moon pulls her aside, and tells her where to lie"</span>
i think sometimes guys freak out about being with a virgin because its going to be something more special for you and something you'll probably remember forever.
The guy i lost my virginity freaked out in the middle because he was doing a virgin and stopped and wouldn't finish. So that was lame.
True beauty is an exchange, not an observation. - Lucid Rog
Yes Fruity very lame. Hahaha damn!
These questions can't be answered by any of us Coma! I suggest you tell him when you next talk about sex...not just out of the blue or not when he's about to stick it in yo, timing is key
The more relaxed you are the better. And be excited about it not nervous, nerves kill shit, really.
Sweet as the Punch.Syco- "The Empress is the latter leg of this triad, representing the physical body and the material world. From her comes all the pleasure of the senses and the abundance of life in all its forms. She is also the mother archetype, and through her we get a first glimpse of the power of love in the Tarot." I think this is all representative of awesomly large tits, no?
Why do you need to tell him you're a virgin? Is it because you think you're going to be bad at having sex? I'm not criticizing... just curious. I didn't tell the guy I lost my virginity to that I was a virgin and he was none the wiser. I just felt it was best not to make a big deal about it.
Anyway, if you want to tell him, but you're uncomfortable about bringing up the subject, you could always make a joke of it. "So, how's it going to feel being a virgin slayer? Ha-ha!" I mean, if you two really like each other, I doubt it's going to be that huge of a deal.
As for if you're going to be good or not... your first time will probably be a little uncomfortable and you're not going to know what to do, so it's not going to be mind-blowing. Just relax and don't worry that you're not the greatest the first time! The couple times after the initial experience are much better.
Yeah, dont worry, coma. If he's worthy of you, he won't be disappointed that you're a virgin or anything.
And losing virginity, isn't that huge a deal, sex-wise. Sure you won't be fantastic on your first time, but if youre good at foreplay, then im pretty sure you'll have an intuition to know which way to go. And you could always have him guide you thro it... ask him to be your teacher, he might like it
Congrats on soon lost virginity!
if truth were an ocean, would it fit in the pool of a human mind?
- The Corrs
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I never told the person I lost my virginity to that I was a virgin. I frankly just don't see the big deal in that label.
"Hic puer est stultissimus omnium."
It was important to me to tell my boyfriend I was a virgin. I took my first time seriously and I wanted him to know that he was special to me and that sex was a big step. So.. is this similar to your situation? There's no 'big deal' about losing your virginity if you attach no importance to it, but I did. It's a personal choice.
sex is great... but in a social standpoint, its wayyy overrated. as is losing your virginity.
Its not as big a deal as everyone makes out, unless, like Blue, you make it a big deal. and that choice is yours.
I think im quite a possessive guy.. therefore i prefer blissful ignorance about the number of guys my girl has been with. Dont like sharing- past, present, or future.
I told the girl I was a virgin after we had sex.
She called me a liar. I told her I watched a LOT of porn.
Originally Posted by emsgrl
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Syco @ Feb 7 2008, 09:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>Wait, I was that guy, (couple times) Is that the most cliche thing you can say? Now I feel like a d-bag for saying it. hahaHopefully he's one of those sweethearts who asks "Are you okay?" ... oh my god I love that![/b]
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<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Tovlakas @ Jan 11 2006, 10:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>my ex had never given a bj before and was saying she was afraid to also, so we just got helza drunk one night and then walaa she did it. try that.
alright cool
i think i can pull this off
pretty good advice guys!
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