Thread: Emotionless Sex

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When women say that they&#39;re just looking for a fun guy to have sex with and hang out with, is this code for wanting that to then turn into something romantic and emotional? How rare is it for a girl to have sex with a male friend who she is sexually attracted to and not want something emotional afterwards?[/b]

I don&#39;t think there is a code per se. I think it is more an unintentional thing for the most part. I&#39;m not saying some women don&#39;t say one thing and mean another knowingly, I just think that most of these gals end up getting in over their head so to speak when it comes to having sex and emotional strings.

There was a blurb I read about a few years back how women have some kind of brain chemistry/hormonal thing kick in after sex that causes emotional attachments. I&#39;m not sure about it but I have experienced it. I don&#39;t know if it&#39;s chemical or behavioral, but I do know I suck at sex without emotional attachments.



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If a girl is sexually attracted to a guy and the guy does not feel any emotional attraction to a girl, but is physically attracted to her, is it truly damaging for him to sleep with her out of lust and/or to fulfill her sexual desire? I have gained an ability to have zero emotionally connection through sex, and would likely have sex with any girl I trust, as long as I know I won&#39;t hurt her emotionally. It&#39;s really becoming a tug of war though.[/b]

To be honest, I think it is a measure of morality. The guys may not agree with me on this and I do understand you have your desires for sex. Although I also think that you have structured your life so that you are emotionally unavailable. This has been a long pattern of yours - being too busy for a relationship. I&#39;m not coming down on you - I&#39;m just giving you my honest assessment of your situation as I see it.

So with that in mind... being that you&#39;ve got this "I&#39;m too busy for relationships"/emotionally unavailability construct, then if you knowingly engage in sex with a girl that will end up wanting more, then yes, you share some of the responsibility. It&#39;s a spin on &#39;it takes two to tango&#39;.

I&#39;m not being facetious, as much as this may sound tongue in cheek, perhaps you need to find yourself a nice call girl. It would solve the dilemma.

I think a lot of women get emotionally attached without meaning to. And I think it&#39;s very difficult to pinpoint the ones who will or won&#39;t.

Though I do think if you&#39;re going to be having meaningless sex, it should NOT be with a female friend. The only time I EVER had any desire to fuck any of my guy friends was when I liked them. And I think most women are like that - you don&#39;t screw your friends unless you want more than friends. Although if you&#39;re acquaintances more than friends, it can work.

I&#39;ve always been the type to disengage my emotions from sex - even in relationships I never felt any sort of emotional connection during sex - it was always just sex. Until now - when my one night stand, no strings attached sex turned into a 4 year (and still going) relationship. So even those girls who typically CAN separate the emotion from sex sometimes can&#39;t, and the guys can&#39;t either sometimes. Luckily for us, we both felt a connection or it would&#39;ve been a way different story and someone would&#39;ve had their feelings hurt.

I&#39;d avoid screwing chicks you know really well, as well as those who want to hang out apart from having sex. Then you&#39;re dating. Or more likely, they think you&#39;re dating, and you think you&#39;re just getting laid.

there isn&#39;t really an answer to these questions. it&#39;s all dependant on circumstance, individual desires, the alignment of the planets...

i&#39;ve done the emotionless sex thing intentionally, and had varying results (it works or it gets emotionally complex)

i&#39;ve had the relationships where the sex has lost it&#39;s allure (kinda like the "itch" as they say. getting bored)

shit, i&#39;ve had intense romantic feelings for a guy one day, only to wake up burnt out the next.

in conclusion,

bitches ain&#39;t shit but hoes and tricks.

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The 16 women who were staying on the Florida State University campus in Tallahassee found themselves on the receiving end of a very direct chat-up line. A young man approached them and, without more ado, said, "I have been noticing you around campus. I find you to be very attractive. Would you go to bed with me tonight?" All the women declined, responding either by saying "You’ve got to be kidding", or "What is wrong with you? Leave me alone."

Out of the 16 men who were approached in the same way by a woman, 12 took up the offer. Their responses were "Why do we have to wait until tonight?" or "I can’t tonight, but tomorrow would be fine."

The psychologist Russell Clark, who carried out this experiment, wanted to find out how the sexes responded differently to sexual advances.

Clark was certain that the reason for this difference lay in the asymmetrical biology of the sexes: "In order to produce a child, men need only to invest a trivial amount of energy, a single man can conceivably father an almost unlimited number of children. Conversely, a woman can give birth to and raise only a limited number of children."

The different cost of sex for men and women was, then, a direct cause of the behaviour that Clark had noticed in his experiment. Women are selective, whereas men are basically prepared to go to bed with any woman. In contrast to the women, who all reacted with outrage to the offer of sex, the four men who didn’t accept were concerned to give the women an excuse, either by saying "I’m married" or "I’m going with someone".

Nowadays the study ‘Gender differences in receptivity to sexual offers’ crops up with great regularity in the media under various headlines (‘Indirect evidence that men are stupid’, ‘Guys = Icky: The definite proof’). The BBC repeated the experiment for a documentary film involving a hidden camera. It turned out that English men were icky as well.[/b]

I have never had a fling or a friends-with-benefits situation without emotions getting in the mix. Hell, even girls I DON&#39;T go to bed with have gotten emotionally weird. The only success I&#39;ve had was when I never spoke to or saw the girl again.

It&#39;s just the nature of the beast.

Personally, I can categorically say I will always feel at least some form of emotion (not necessarily positive) for anyone who puts anything in me.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Trionix @ Dec 14 2008, 04:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>

Personally, I can categorically say I will always feel at least some form of emotion (not necessarily positive) for anyone who puts anything in me.[/b]

o rly?

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Personally, I can categorically say I will always feel at least some form of emotion (not necessarily positive) for anyone who puts anything in me.[/b]

o rly?
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Uh, yeah. Whatever the situation may be, ranging from a girl putting her tongue in my mouth to a guy in prison putting his cock in my ass, emotion will always be attached.

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (LittleBit @ Dec 14 2008, 09:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>

The only time I EVER had any desire to fuck any of my guy friends was when I liked them. And I think most women are like that - you don&#39;t screw your friends unless you want more than friends. Although if you&#39;re acquaintances more than friends, it can work.[/b]

There is one friend that I have sex with on occasion. We are nothing more than friends and never have been. Although, we did have a conversation the other day about how he would date me if he were in a "dating place" in his life, but all that is assuming that I would be interested in dating him (which I am not... ). The only time there&#39;s a problem is when one of us is kind of "seeing" (or sexing...) someone else and then the other person gets slightly jealous. But really, if he got a girlfriend and we never had sex again, I could see myself getting over it almost immediately. This situation works out just fine, because the sex is great. If only it were on a regular basis.... >.<

There are times that I have found myself interested in having a relationship with someone AFTER we&#39;ve had sex. But then again, there are times where I&#39;ve become less interested in having something more with someone after sex.

I echo whoever it was that said don&#39;t have sex with friends. Don&#39;t do that - always a bad idea. Also... you help make it weird if/when you want to "hang out" during times you&#39;re not together to get laid. For women who are more emotional anyway just because we are who we are... throwing us weird loops like hanging out instead of just having sex can be confusing. If you only want sex, then only call for sex.

According to Sex And The City Season 1 Episode 1, no, women can&#39;t have emotionless sex.

They&#39;re into you because they want to turn you into someone that does care about relationships and love. Tread carefully, girls like this usually wind up being very psycho.

Yes, some women CAN have emotionelss sex. But I think they are few and far between.