Sex everyday

**candace** · 02-15-2009 11:43 AM

Ok, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now but theres a slight problem. He wants to have sex all the time. I know a guy is usually like this anyway but then when he doesn't get it then he gets mad. Its not that I don't want to have sex, just not as often. At the beginning of the relationship, my confidence was at a low and he helped bring me up which also brought up my sex drive alot. But lately I found out I have hpv and sometimes during sex it hurts because of it. He understands this but its like he doesn't understand that having this does a number on my sex drive. Because of my lack of sex drive there has been alot of tension and that in turn doesn't help either. Is there any way I could possibly boost my sex drive? lol FYI we do have sex almost everyday but its like once he gets it, he's never satisifed. One more thing is that he complains that I never come on to him but with him always coming on to me its like I never get a chance to come on to him. Any advice or someone with a somewhat similar problem?

**Tequesian** · 02-15-2009 04:13 PM

Coffee?

Sorry. If you have a situation though, the guy is just going to have to find a way to cope with it. You might have to tell him that no only means not tonight, but you do have circumstances, and his anger reaction is not being supportive or turning you on.

The caffeine thing was not really a joke though. Fatigue can be a major downer and caffeine can alleviate that to an extent.

**Tia** · 02-15-2009 05:19 PM

If one person is doing all the come-ons then the other person won't want sex as much. That's been proven many times before. So not only is your sex drive lower because of other things, but your boyfriend isn't helping by being super available all the time and making you feel bad about not wanting sex 15,000 times a day. It's not normal for a boyfriend to be that sex-crazed that he won't even listen to you or support you and he can't go more than 12 hours without sex. That is, frankly, ridiculous.

I think he needs to calm down and give you some space. He needs to be supportive of you and give you a chance to express your own desires, instead of it always being about him and when he wants it. You're not the one with the problem here, imo.

**candace** · 02-15-2009 06:12 PM

thanks...and for the coffee thing, I can't stand coffee so no help there lol

I'm joining a gym now when I recover from a recent surgery so hopefully the exercise will help boost my confidence and help with the situation. Hopefully he'll soon understand

**sprankified** · 02-16-2009 12:53 AM

hmm. he sounds kinda douchey. and childish. piss and vinegar.

i think if i were you, i'd rather be single. but i guess you probably 'love' him if you've been together for this long. so i guess you're just going to have to put up with it. do you live together? have you seen the waitress? god that movie was good. depressing, but good. she puts up with all kinds of shit thru the whole movie, and it's just horrid. but good in the end.

suck, i would go pearl jam on his ass. find a bettar man. and bake a pie.

**Gone** · 02-16-2009 01:04 AM

just buy a strap on and sneak up on him all the time and fuck him

just be like

"HOW DO YOU LIKE IT MOTHER FUCKER!?!!?!?!"

**candace** · 02-16-2009 07:20 PM

Yeah we live together...

As for the strap on, I'm sure my point would get across then! haha!

**Fruity** · 02-16-2009 07:43 PM

some guys tend to react badly when threatened with a strap on.

**Ret** · 02-18-2009 02:33 PM

Both of you need to compromise a bit.

He needs to stop being a baby and respect you, and him getting MAD at you that you dont want to have sex everyday is not respectful.

You need to learn that sex is give and take, as in that sometimes you gotta step your game up and come on to him in order to meet that give and take.

How to accomplish this? First tell him to back off. Once you know your partner feels they 'need' sex it takes the umph out of sex and intamcy, because it makes you feel that your partner views you just as a person to meet his/her sexual needs (and what about yours?), and thats not always that sexy. Most people I know want to feel like sex is a mutual want, that its not needed nor exspected but rather its this overwhelming, dripping inner want of desire to satisfy eachother and explode in a sweaty body taunting surge of passion. The second your partner starts exspecting sex, and presents it to you as 'I need sex daily', it diminishes all the goodness of sex. So, tell him how you feel. Tell him hes not helping you feel good or sexy by always wanting, begging, pressuring you for sex. Tell him if he wants you to step up to the plate he has to give you breathing room, and you two are going to have to work TOGETHER to make sex that mutual want. No exspecting sex. You let it happen because both of you CRAVE it.

Next, assuming he listens to you and backs off a bit. You need to get in touch with your sexuality. Set the mood. Girls dig when the mood is set, but I always find they exspect the guy to set it. So take charge and YOU set the mood. Do whatever it takes you to give you that extra umph of female power, whether its as sublte as wearing a sexy bra and panties, or its more noticable like candles, just do something that makes you feel comfrtable and sexy, becuase that will help you ease into the role of suductress. You have to feel sexy to do a believable job at taking charge. So what makes you feel sexy? And do that.

I think one of the easiest ways to take charge is set up a nice movie night, look all hot, while watching the movie start rubbing your hand on his leg but stay focused on the movie. Eventually lean over to his ear and tell him your bored, then slip down on your knees between his legs and start telling him the things youd like him the things youd like to do to him to get you un-bored. That usually involves a blow job, and thats a good way to start the taking control deal. The act isnt too bold, its more the way you go about it... see? Try it.

**gloryforixseal** · 06-15-2009 09:41 PM

Yes, I think so...we have had the benefit of more sex and we have also been into the swinging lifestyle which has opened us up a bit to each other. I have found that it's changed in a good way for us, but I can tell from others on the forums that it has been negative for them...

**Aphrodite5156** · 06-16-2009 02:17 AM

When you say that you don't want to have sex as often as he does, does that mean that you really don't want to have sex often? I mean, I would be a but upset and frustrated as well if I was constantly trying to get my sig other to show some sexual interest in me. Maybe he feels he has to be the one to come on to you because you are never coming on to him??? Being turned down by you time after time has most likely done a number on his self confidence, and even though you make excuses about why you don't want it, he still always thinks it's him.

I wasn't aware that sex being painful was a symptom of HPV?? Is that something that is exclusive to you, or do you maybe have other issues that are making the sex painful? Have you talked to a doctor about how intercourse feels for you sometimes?

**TheMadCatter** · 06-17-2009 12:51 AM

this noob hasnt posted in 4 months, let it go

**Aphrodite5156** · 06-17-2009 09:46 AM

Clearly I didn't notice that...

**Fruity** · 06-17-2009 08:02 PM

its not your fault, Aphrodite, someone else bumped it.

**Ironman** · 06-21-2009 11:32 PM

this is a prime example of how girls are retarded.

if the your guy wants sex from you it a good thing and you should want to have sex with him. if you don't want sex with hime then break up and let the guy find someone who will fuck him 24/7 without bitching about it

there are plenty of women in the world if you can't handle your man let him go he will find someone that can sooner or later.

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