i have been having sex with my girlfriend for 5 months, about once a week. she has never had an orgasm in her life. she's never masterbated before! this came as a shock to me cause i thought everybody did!she's not lyin either cause we're very honest with each other.
anyway. her vulva (the external part of the female genetalia for the clueless guys. although this post is most definitely aimed at girls) and even her clitoris is very insensitive. intercourse is pleasureable for her. fingering can really get her going. but oral sex is practically useless.
she's never had an orgasm before, so she doesn't know what she's missing, but i wanna give it to her! so we've had sex about 30 times and i know by now that i'm not gonna be able to give her an orgasm through intercourse or clitoral stimulation. so, i figure the only way is fingering. which is no problem because it's tons of fun for me, and i have very talented fingers! but here's the thing....whenever she gets close to having an orgasm, she stops me. she says that she doesn't want to go any further because it feels better than sex and she doesn't think that is right. i've told her that it's not a problem because a lot of girls can't have orgasms through intercourse alone. but then she says that she doesn't care if she has one or not. obviously never had one before! hehe
i wanna give my girlfriend and orgasm! help me please!
If she has an orgasm from fingering, it may become easier for her to have an orgasm during intercourse. There are some studies that suggest that women may need to teach themselves how to orgasm... or how to let themselves orgasm, in my interpretation of it.
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ya i was just reading something about that actually. before that, i assumed that it would be very difficult to reach orgasm if you have never even masterbated before.
I prefer fingering to sex, and i see no problem with that. i don't know how you are going to convince her of that though. Maybe you need to encourage her to start fingering herself and other ways so she can discover these things for herself.
i'm not much help. sorry
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Here's a wild idea... why dont you stop pressuring her to orgasm?
If she really wants to, she'll figure it out.
In the mean time, back off.
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/fr_index.htm
^^ More than enough on the topic.
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yes, give her time. If she feels pressured and uptight and not relaxed its not gonna happenOriginally posted by SexiSexist@Jan 19 2004, 08:36 AM
Here's a wild idea... why dont you stop pressuring her to orgasm?
If she really wants to, she'll figure it out.
In the mean time, back off.
Ill tell you in another life when we are both cats.
no, of course i don't pressure her to orgasm. i've only talked about it once, when she stopped me from fingering her when she was getting close. since then, she stops me every time but i don't say a word.Originally posted by SexiSexist@Jan 19 2004, 08:36 AM
Here's a wild idea... why dont you stop pressuring her to orgasm?
If she really wants to, she'll figure it out.
In the mean time, back off.
wow, that's a really great site. i'll have to give my girlfriend that link. thanksOriginally posted by malicious mischief@Jan 19 2004, 08:36 AM
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/fr_index.htm
^^ More than enough on the topic.
I would say not to worry about it. Sometime when you get her particularly horny she will let you take her all the way and then it will be something she doesn't mind. Lol.
You are very right about not all women being able to hit orgasm from intercourse alone. Of course there are a million reasons to why this may not be happening as well. If she is able to really let herself go or not could have an impact on it.
Just relax and be thankful that you are getting off in the meantime, but kudos to you for thinking of her. Way to go.
alright, one of my friends has had sex a lot, and i get to hear all about it, not my favourite thing to talk about in math class, but thats when she says what she says. the thing is though, she has never had an orgasm either, every time she is close she makes her boyfriend stop. this is because she is afraid of losing control. maybe i may be wrong, but maybe your girlfriend is the same. so if she does want an orgasm but not with fingers, after she tell u to stop fingering her, then just have actual intercourse, that may work. and if she doesnt want ot orgasm, then allow her to go at the pace she wishes, with it, it is her body.
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That's the best advice, yet. If she feels pressure, it makes it a lot more difficult, because she's all tense. I know that you might not feel like you're pressuring her, but she may feel like you are. I'm sure she feels the pressure every time you touch her. I'm the same way as your girlfriend, and it feels like it's my "duty" to make him feel like a man by having an orgasm. My boyfriend is really good about it, and he's really, really understanding. Talking about it really helped us, but I don't know if that'll work for your girlfriend.Originally posted by SexiSexist@Jan 19 2004, 02:36 PM
Here's a wild idea... why dont you stop pressuring her to orgasm?
If she really wants to, she'll figure it out.
In the mean time, back off.
As far as her stopping you, it may have nothing to do with "losing control" or her getting close to having an orgasm. She might just want to stop. You expect her to keep going until she has an orgasm, but as far as she's concerned, that's not going to happen. So, she probably just stops what she wants to. Just understand that she still enjoys it, even if she doesn't have an orgasm.
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i doubt she feels pressured. and sometimes she does just want me to stop, cause she's not particularly horny or she really wants to have sex. but most of the time it is because she's about to come. i know because i asked her one time why she stopped me and it was because she thought she was gonna come and she thought that should happen during sex. and i can tell when she's gonna, she's not into faking anything. but, an orgasm during intercourse at this point is impossible. i can't reach the places that i can with my fingers. so maybe it will just take time or a new position. any recomendations for a position that really stimulates the G spot?
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE </div>From here. I just glanced over the rest of the extensive list and descriptions listed on that site. But I thought you might like to check out the whole article.Rear Entry Sex Position
The Rear Entry position also called "doggie style" is a favorite among sex enthusiasts. This position dates back thousands of years. It does have one advantage and one disadvantage - the advantage is because of the angle and the depth of penetration, it is an excellent way to reach the G-spot. The disadvantage is that it's sometimes difficult for the little guy to keep his penis inside her and there is no direct clitoral stimulation.
Rear Entry Sex Position involves the man kneeling behind her as she is on all fours using kneepads or pillows placed under the knees. The most common body position is the man and woman have similar body positions, in other words, bodies as close together as possible.
Piercing Tiger - this exciting variation can be performed with her on her knees and forearms so that her buttocks are raised. He then kneels behind her grasping her waist and hips controlling all the action. This is a true animalistic position.
Laid Out Rear Entry - while performing the rear entry, she can be entered the while you're both standing up or laying down flat. You can even perform this position kneeling, sitting or even lying side-by-side.[/b]
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