Thread: Suicide

How aweful, I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

I have mixed feelings on suicide, for me it depends on the circumstances.

Terminally ill, commits suicied so they wont have to go through the pain and suffering and so their loved ones wont have to witness it. I'm fine with.

Depressed, angry, finiancally stressed, can't face up to something or own up to something and commits suicide I feel is a selfish and coward thing to do especially if they leave behind young kids and a partner.

I think you would have to be in a certain mind set to be able to go through with commiting suicide.

I wonder if it is only a certain kind of person that can commit suicide.

Not just desparate as there are alot of people who have to deal with a lot of shit and downs in their life but they still keep going.

people who take their lives are responsible for their own actions
he was an idiot
no offence
anyone to act in the manner that he did is seen as little to nothing in my view
............most suicidees blame people......... cause we all know, it's harder to blame ourselves.... hell, if they were able to take the blame THEY WOULDNT WRITE A DUMB NOTE

you may say "but it's a persons last words"
when your about to kill yourself....... would you be thinking straight? would your note make sense? and if you were thinking straight WHY WOULD YOU DO IT

he should have gotten himself professional help long ago and you werent aware of what he thought...... you cant stop a person if they are planning to kill themselves no matter what you say, it doenst change how they think

and to be thinking of suicide.................. to have killed himself............. your words to him were not the issue............ as i said.... if they are gunna do it, they are gunna do it and a little thing like that wont drive them to it....
it's months of anger, depression, temporary insanity, helplessness and hopelessness

remember him how he was (if it be an asshole, he was an asshole)
dont try to make him more than what he seemed

when i was reading this i started to tear up cause i felt sorry for you and the way you were treatted that kinda pisses me off that you were blammed for is death.

if they lisened to the conversation that you had he were haveing they would understand the fact that you were pissed

i am sorry that you were blammed for it

Sorry to hear about that rebbie I really disagree with suicide, I really do think it's selfish. But, everyday someone kills themselves, dont how many though...I really do thinks it's tragic. Now I'm *probably* going to sound stupid but...everyone was put on this place for an purpose...to experience life. So, people shouldn't take their lifes away...even if they are terminally ill.

Maybe because I strongely disagree the whole subject is because my ex boyfriend tried to kill himself...he even had the gun, the bullet, the suicide letter to his Mum, everything. But for some strange reason he chicken out...which I'm truly grateful...but I still can't understand why people put themselves and theyre families through this pain?!?

Told you that it was going to sound stupid

I didnt know this was here, I was quite sure I'd looked through all these, but I guess I hadn't

I agree with you, before my mom killed herself, and even for a while after...I was angry at her...I thought she was being selfish. I didnt understand how she could do that to us. I blamed everyone I could for it, mostly myself. But then, after I had a while to think about it. I realised...I don't blame her. She'd been through so much - I can honestly say I wouldnt have made it near as long as she did, if I had her life. So many mental illnesses that werent treated, or were poorly treated..lack of education and experience here with the professionals made it worse. And to top it off, nothing in her life went well, ever. Abuse, drug addictions etc. I think people get angry because they cant possibly comprehend how someone can feel so horrible, and like they've tried everything. Because most people don't feel that way. It's easier to point fingers, and get angry..than it is to possibly fathom how someone can hurt so much, and hate life so much that they'd want to die. Most people fear death, so when someone welcomes it, and wants it, we don't understand.

I dont place blame anymore, I dont get angry at anyone anymore. I get angry in general, when I miss her..but its not directed at anyone or anything, just angry that she had to have a life that was so bad that it drove her to do that.

I honestly believe she'd done everything she could to make things better...she quit drugs, she TRIED to make a better life for herself. She'd been severly depressed for 30 years...there wasnt much else she could do, it wasn't going to end. And I honestly feel when people are like that, that its okay. I mean..not okay, its horrible that things ever get to that point for anyone. But, I dont think it's selfish...she knew it was hurting us, and everything around her, life sucked for everyone around her. She didnt just do it to stop hurting, she did it for so many other reasons. And when someone's life has been as bad as hers - I can't say I blame them, or anyone for doing it.

But, when it is out of spite, I agree, its selfish, cowardly and hurts way more people than just the one you were trying to spite. But I sometimes think, what appears to be someone doing it out of spite, is just someone who hid a lot from everyone for so long, and no one knew they were going through it, so it just seems like spite. When really, it was just the last straw, one more reason for them to do it. Im not sure, it really depends on the circumstances and the person. And sometimes, it is a cry for help. I believe MOST, not all, teenage suicides, are cries for help...everythings so fucked up at that time in life, and when everyones chalking up your feelings to "being a teenager", some feel the need to do something drastic to make people wake up and listen, sometimes its too drastic. I dont believe most teens want to die and end it all, they just want someone to listen and help. But, again, who knows, it always depends on the circumstances.

Im really sorry about your loss Rebbie, I hope things have gotten better for you since then.

it makes me very sad that u had to live through that. it is a horrible situation to have to go through, especially since he is not around to explain exactly y he blamed u. it leaves people with a lot of questions and a lot of room to make up gossip. but i do have to disagree with the thoughts of suicide. i find suicide very not cool. in any circumstance. the thing that a lot of people dont get about suicide is that u r in a completly differnt state of mind with no reasoning. u really dont have a clue what is goin on, except all the times u have been hurt. when u r in the "mood" of doing that, all u can think about r the negitive times in ur life.a lot of people who have tried to commit suicide, but havent suceeded, basically woke up from their trance in time. im talking about the people who couldnt do it. the others who havent suceeded were jus lucky.people who think of suicide really need help,and ne kind would work. even if u barely know the person jus talking to them and having a good convo with them can help.to ne one who thinks about suicide i say this next thing to u. if u ever feel the need to kill urself, like u cant take ne more, jus think about everyone who was good to u, like ur closest friends, dont think about negitive things becuz it only makes it worse. sometimes even writing down your feelings, wait five min. listen to music then, and think about ur family and friends, then read them again can help too.. sometimes u feel silly be cuz u r a lot calmer and have a lot more reasoning power. i honestly feel that lie really cant be that bad to end it. there has to be something in ur life worth living for, u jus need to continualy remind ur self about it.