Thread: Wow like this could get any worse.

Please please help me get out of this one, its a long story though, kinda confusing, and i really want help.

Okay just some info. My parents just had a seperation, about 6 months ago and i'm cool with that now, thought it was a big shock when i was first told about it. My dad has always had major angery problems, for example he once yelled at me for putting the fork on the right side of the plate. My mom on the other hand loves me very much (both my parents do) but treats me with absolutly no respect and doesn't know when to stop, ever.

Now since they have split up all of the bad stuff about them has been amplifed ten fold. My dad always gets angery about every little thing when i'm at his hosue i have an extremly hard time avoiding getting yelled at by him. As for my mother, well this summer we have never seen eye to eye, our relationship has become increasingly bad, and we always fight. Plus shes a full fledged bitch in my book, and in my friends book. Also i have a lil sister whom i naturally pick on a bit but everything seems to side with her and of course against me. An example: a couple of nights ago my sister goes to bed at 11, and i'm in my room playing an online game. at 11:30 i go by her room see thats shes watching shrek, look in and then leave te room, at 12 my mom comes down our stairs and screams at me about how my sisters hair is cut, and how it is my fault. Of course i had done no such thing to her, and have not cut her hair in a good 5 years (i used to do it on occasion when i was 10 and much less mature, now i am a lot more mature, prolly won't see it here though) and when i try to explain i didn't do it and where i've been she jsut keeps screaming then goes upstairs and back to sleep, i was of course lucky to escape without punishment. Sure i poke my sister at times or type "i love you" to guys or girls on her AIM just to mess around but i don't cut her hair or physically injure her.

Also a side note, i've always had a horrible case of being bullied pushed around and teased since i was young. I've also on occasion hit back, but that is well outsdie my nature as i have taken punches from kids i coudl easily have taken down and not done a thing. Also i'm small for my age, of course so kids have a lot of fun knocking me down. Since like 4th grade i've been going to a theripist for my problems and i still do though i don't think i need to i just don't say anything cuz i'll just get into another fight with my parents. Another thing is that i feel that everything in my life has been a battle, ever inch of groud i manage to get a hold of was a full fleged battle to get and another battle to hold, and i'm getting sick of the fighting, after 15 years of it i'm sure you would be sick of it too. i have my share of romantic troubles and so on and so forth but overall latly i've felt things have been a lil bit better, well until an hour ago.

Now heres my problem. This summer has been like my last 2 me at home by myself most of the time enjoying being alone and esspeically away from my mother and sister. Of course when my mom is home we usally have one fight or another. Anyways one of my many many jobs around the house is to walk our dog which i tend to do pretty offten 5 times out of the 7 times a week i usally do it, not my fav thing to do but i get by. So today i haven't yet walked the dog and at 8 o'clock i come downstairs to try and watch phelps in the olympic swimming and of course i have another fight with my mother. This time as i'm sitting down to watch phelps i turn it on and its womans vollyball, so i'm trying to watch it when my mom asks me have you walked the dog yet, then saying no she starts to bug me to walk and when i ask her to wait for me to see phelps race she starts yelling at me to get it done, so just to shut the bitch up (you have no clue how annoying she gets) and i walk the dog, and i come back to see gymnistics on. My mom is sitting reading the paper, so i try to turn on one of my vidio games while waiting for phelps race she gets mad and yells AGAIN at me to turn it back so i do and when we hit a commerical out of habit i turn it back to kill the commericail time, which of course results in her yelling at me for doing so and turning into another argument. So i agree to not play it to keep her quiet and she goes back to reading. So after phelp's race i ask her if i can play for a bit and she says only if i empy the dish washer for her again (accually i've empied it as a favor to her for well over a month now) and i say "can you please do it once i've been doing it for a month, so we get into another argument about how i have to do it. (of course the whole diswasher thing is my fault, i felt that since i was home so much i shoudl try to keep the house relativly neat, and do the dishes for her and empty it, but i keep forgetting if i do anything for her she automaticly assumes that i will do it for her everyday all the time and its not a one time thing, thought it doens't work in reverase for me of course.) so i finally agree to "help" her with it so she takes them out and puts em on the counter, and i put em away and i also do my dishes whcih i have no problem doing. Anyways before that we'd made a deal of if i do this for her then i can play my game, but as you might have guessed she breaks her end of the deal and tells me since i turned to the channel it was on i would have to dissconnect it from the tv for a week. Now naturally i'm started to get pissed at her for breaking her deal and for just plain being rude to me, i had done nothing wrong and held up my end of the bargian so when i ask i get the standered "i don't need to explain myself to you" and she begins to read the paper. Now i've pretty much ahd it with her disrespect to me all the time, her mind numbing lecutures about she gave birth to me and because of that i have to bend to her every whim. So i take her paper from her and tell her no, we are going to talk about it now because i want to know what i did wrong. Of course this just causes her to get even more angery so she attemps to dissconnect my stuff and i know if she does she probably with end up ruining something or another, so i go over there and tell her don't touch it, i don't want you to break the stuff. So she tells me to disconnect it myself and i say plz just let me save the game in some way, because earlier that day i had beaten a realativly difficult part of the game and didn't want to have to reapeat doing it but of course its a no so when she starts to push and shove me around i tell push her back and tell her don't you touch me. Now of course shes pissed tells me not to put my hands on her which i obey and then stand in her way so she may not touch the stuff, so of couse we have a scuffle where i do not touch her in anyway with my hands. After a while she manages to shut down the system, and i say fine and dissconnect it. However now she's gone to the extreame and informs me she's calling my theirapist to have me "condemed" because i have gotten violent. Now you probably see my problem i am in no way intending to be condemed for this, nor will i let her push me around anymore, i also do not in anyway expect to go near her and plea for the release of this condemed thing. I hae no clue what shes planning but all i know is that she always threatens me with her running to someone bigger and stronger to stop me.

Now my problem is how do i get out of this. I don't want to deal with it, but i feel i've done the correct thing by finally standing up to her, i am sick of her treatment of me. I know very well she loves me and always will, and is tyring to do this for my own good and i've done my best to hold my temper with her and not let it be violent. And in my past i have avoided being violent back at someone because thats who i am, sometimes i have had to but and i do but i dont' hurt them i stop them thats how i am. Now i'm in real need of advice, also i have never ever talked to my theriapist about anything and i don't plan on doing so, i have very lil trust of adults when asking for advice, well most anyways i don't mind as much expressing myself to a chat room or fourms as like now cuz i know they have an very very unbised answer...i hope.

Just the final note my policly on my respect is mainly this. You get my respect giving me respect i don't care if your my mother or some guy on the street you get it if you are respectful, and willing to listen.

So thats my situation, plz don't tell me i'm insane i already consider myself that. Don't tell me to run to my mother and beg forgivness i don't do that either, unlike most of my family i try to avoid running behind the bigger person and i try to solve stuff my own way, or with the advice of others, not by running to my mommy asking for her to protect me.

So thats it, thank you all for the adivce you might give me.

Ahh and I read it all too..

I was ready to give some great advice too.