Thread: Roomie problems....

It sounds like you've been pretty fortunate in the past with room mate situations. Usually something rears its ugly head. Anyway, although I'm no expert and have never really had a room mate I don't see the harm in talking to the roomie with the girlfriend. I don't see where it needs to be some big huge dramatic blow up of a thing. More like, hey dude, your gf's nice an' all but we've only got one bathroom and she's messing with my schedule.

Stewing about it will only piss you off more and if he follows any type of difficult room mate pattern, he's probably completely unaware that her presence is causing any disturbance. Now if after you talk to him and he's a dick about it, well then that's a whole other problem.

I lived with roommates in college. That wasn't bad, because I was young and didn't really have any responsibilities. I was just having fun. I lived with another friend of mine in her house a few years ago. It was fine at first, and then she and her boyfriend got back together. I lost my spot in the garage, he ate our food, etc. He wasn't living there, so that was the big problem. He paid nothing. He never replaced food he ate. And then it got to the point where he was there when she wasn't. I was very uncomfortable with that.

I learned from that experience that I never wanted to live with someone again. No roommates for me. Ever. But obviously, you're in a situation where you don't have a choice. I would definitely recommend saying something (along the lines of what Ruby said). She's right on stewing about it. Everything will just fester and eventually burst.

Yup, communicate. After you tell him your end of the situation, you can reevaluate your options from his response.

Yeah, we're gonna talk today. I saw him at work last night, and told him we needed to chat sometime today. We'll see what happens.

The other roomie moved out yesterday so that's one problem gone.

ugh roommates suck. good luck with your chat

Well, it didn't go too well. He insists that he should be able to do whatever, since he pays rent too. I agree...but the issue is...HE PAYS RENT, not her. I don't want to live with a guy and his gf. End of.

Guess I'll wind up talking to her, and just booting her ass out. No subtleness here, unless I can sweet talk her into staying home some. Bah, I don't even know that she HAS a home!

I went into the kitchen last night late, around 11PM, she was in there just diddling around. I kept saying excuse me, excuse me, we danced around a bit and finally I just said, "It's time for you to go home. You're here more than the other roommate, and he LIVES here. Are you gonna start paying rent now?"

She ran off into the bedroom, and her bf comes out. I told him the same thing...take her the fuck home. I've seen her enough. She doesn't live here.

So they leave. I really didn't want a direct confrontation, but sometimes I guess you gotta say whats on your mind. We'll see how this pans out, I may go outside and all my tires will be flat lol!

Nice one like! Keep us updated

man i applaude you. i dunno that i'd have the balls to just lay down the law like that. i'm super passive agressive tho.

Woo! Awesome, I like that. Update?

being direct is the best way to be, I think. At least they all know where they stand.

My sister has trouble with her housemates. All important matters are communicated by email like "i've moved out, so you have to cover the rent by yourself" or "i contacted the real estate agent and told them we are moving out, so pack up your room next week"

So far, so good. She was in once this weekend, but that's it. He and I talk, I fixed his computer for him Tuesday. So maybe they got the message.

@Fruity: I actually like that method, it takes all emotion out of it (unless you type it when you're raging mad, then that's another issue entirely).

@Sprank: I didn't want to do it that way, but she was in my way and I was hungry......'nuf said.

What gets me about this is that the gf is there when he isnt.
That's where I would draw the the line.
Even with my last roommate douches, his gf was only there when he was, and then again she kept to his side and out of our business.
Respect.
Living in the common areas (couch) is also a deal breaker for me.
The official term for that is 'rent out the couch', and for good reason.

The problem with all this is that... there's still the possiblility that majority will side against you and you'll be left with, 'deal with it or scram'.
There's a reason roommate living is dirt cheap. :/

I'll be checking for updates...