Thread: what should i do

Do you trust him?

I'm fairly certain the biggest issue here is that he threatens to "beat your ass" and you are afraid of him. Get some support from family and friends and dump his ass.

When you're afraid to leave because he'll hurt you if you do, then you know it's time to leave. I'm less worried about him possibly cheating and more worried of him possibly being abusive.

I thank everyone for the advise but I am very afraid of leaving. He has made the statment that I can't leave him and that he knows my social security number and if I leave he can always track me.he said he would come 2 my mama house and get me if I go back homeand he says that he will never hit me but I've been in abusive relationships before and I kno how that goes.I trust him 2 a certain extent but things like this makes me not trust him.I don't have any support because my family doesn't want anything.2 do wit me cause I'm 18 and jus graduated high school last year and they didn't want me 2 leave home and go 2 college.the whole reason y I moved wit him is so I can go 2 school .all my friends are gone away 2 college so I'm on my own dealin with this problem

I was a bit glib in my first reply. Let's break this down.

me and my bf jus recently moved in 2gether and since we have been 2gether there is problems wit him and other females..he does tattoos and has alot of female clients but i wonder sometimes do they be more than clients..i invade the trust law and i go through his phne cause he always on his phne n i knw the truth is in the phne...

You moved in with a guy that you don't trust is being faithful to you. Why? Was it a choice between being with him and being homeless?

well he always gets mad at me and threatens 2 beat my ass and tries 2 break up wit me..i jus dnt understand why cause he the one in the wrng nt me..

You are dating an insecure, emotionally retarded, egocentric pig. I can't be any more clear than that. One minute he threatens to beat you up if you leave and the next threatens to break up with you. That's called being an asshole. Why do you love an asshole?

ive been commited 2 only him.

Time to end that track record. You need to be exposed to more and different men. Especially men that aren't idiotic immature assholes that can't figure out how to treat people with respect.

nt only that he gets on these websites and ask females are they single and he claim he jus tryn 2 promote his tattoos but that doesnt sound like promotin 2 me..

It's not business promotion. It's prowling.

i cry everyday thinkin bout what he do 2 me...

Someone that makes you cry everyday is someone that you shouldn't be with. Unless you like inflicting pain and suffering on yourself.

im only stayin cause i feel like maybe im over reactin bout the whole situation..

I disagree. From what I can tell you are only staying because you doubt you are actually worth having a man that really cares about you as a person. You probably don't much care about yourself so you think that you deserve this type of behavior and can't do better for yourself.

By the way, you are wrong. You deserve better. But you have to make that decision for yourself.

i jus need sum help should i stay n see where it goes or should i leave..

It is time to leave. You should not stay. He will not improve. Eventually he will strip away what little self regard you may have and make it so you not only are in doubt but actually believe you deserve to be hit when he does actually hit you.

That's what abusers do. They are so insecure that they make themselves feel better by making you feel worse.

im so scared 2 leave cause he mite try and hit me cause he has a past of that

Get some of your male friends. Pack your shit and leave. If he tries to hit you, that's why you have the male friends around. If he succeeds, then look at that bruise everyday and swear to yourself that you will never allow any man to ever hit you again because you will make better choices for yourself.

you can get a ssn number pretty easy just get it changed... and call the cops if you want to make sure nothing happens when you move out your not married and you dont have to do anything you dont want to.

You should speak to him...