Thread: i don't get you boys..

move on there is no point in playing games.

Cat string theory is a phrase coined by Mystery that refers to the fact that cats will often chase after a feather which is dangled in front of it from a string, but will quickly lose interest in the feather if it is simply placed in front of the cat. The analogy to pickup is that women are the cats, men are the feathers. Even though a woman may be initially attracted to a man, that attraction can quickly be lost if the man showers her with too much attention, especially in the beginning stages of a pickup. Women, just like men, enjoy the chase, so the harder they have to work for something, the more they enjoy it.
The idea of cat string theory can be put into practice through such techniques as push/pull, 101, and BHRR, which all alternate between showing a woman interest and disinterest. Other useful techniques include role-reversal and prizing, so that the frame is set up so that the woman is chasing you, rather than the other way around.

Originally Posted by Lizzie91

he just came up introduced himself started asking him how we met and crap and then right in front him says to me "so how many guys is that now?" and "i'll cya friday night then" and kinda smirks.

If a guy ssaid that to ME in front of someone I was talking to, I would have never talked to him again, let alone hung out with him the next day. He made you sound like a complete whore, and you just let him get away with it?

Originally Posted by Lizzie91

anyway well i did see him friday night he invited me over for dinner, nothin happened just like the old days cook dinner whatch movies sleepover.

Soo...you won't sleep with him, but you had a sleep over with him? Kinda a hypocrisy, don't you think? No wonder he won't call you. He's confused as heck about whether you're going to sleep with him or not.

i don't think so. She made it clear from the beginning that its not a sexual thing. She's just innocent enough to think that a sleepover is just that, and not part of his plan to bed her.

But i agree. No point playing games. I'd just delete him from my phone and the next time he sents some sort of I Love You message, you just reply with "Sorry, who is this? I don't have your number saved in my phone"

He probably thinks that by letting you think that he loves you, you might be more likely to sleep with him.

Well, we (females) are kind of known for saying one thing and meaning another. It's very possible that he thinks that she just doesn't want to seem like an easy girl and is just saying that she doesn't want it to be sexual.

I think it's important to not put yourself in those situations. I see no reason to have a sleepover with a guy I'm not interested in sleeping with or being sexual with. It doesn't mean that I plan on sleeping with him right away, but that's not the point.

i agree. I just think when you are young, its easy to think that because you've made your intentions clear that you just assume everyone is on the same page as you.
I had to learn the hard way it doesn't work like that. You can tell a guy all you want that you don't want to sleep with him, but as long as you are still in the room, he's assuming otherwise.

walk away