Boyfriend Dump or Not

**worried** · 02-19-2010 10:13 AM

Hi, I'm new to this.... view would be great

**rubytuesday** · 02-19-2010 03:30 PM

Move on.

The choices you've got to identify his behavior aren't ones you want to choose from.

He's either a prostitute or can't be faithful to you.

He'll get over it and you'll find someone new.

**Tia** · 02-19-2010 07:50 PM

There's two different issues here, as I see it. The first is that he was selling himself [his time, his words, even if not his body] supposedly to buy things for you, which is kind of fucked up logic. The second is that he sounds like he does drugs a bit more often than you'd like him to, and he's not being respectful of your wanting to just go to sleep. Both of those things would be problematic by themselves. Plus, now it seems like you're having issues trusting him to stay monogamous, and without trust a relationship is nothing.

Wanting to be with somebody who behaves as though he's in a committed, monogamous relationship is not being a control freak. So he cries and says he loves you.. okay, so does he act like it? And are you willing to wait and see if he changes? Because if either answer is no or even "I'm not sure," it probably is time to cut ties.

**Zuggie** · 02-20-2010 01:51 AM

Yes, move on!

**Gutter** · 02-21-2010 04:55 PM

hmm maybe you should tell him to get help with his problems and get a real job instead of being a douche bag.

**Fruity** · 02-22-2010 12:41 AM

Is having things for valentines day and christmas really that important? Given the choice between having my partner become a prostitute or not getting a gift, i'd choose the latter. If it was me, i wouldn't choose to stay with him.

**Tia** · 02-22-2010 01:43 PM

Why did you edit your post out?

**Fruity** · 02-22-2010 07:14 PM

I thought there was a time limit on when you could edit your posts.

**rubytuesday** · 02-22-2010 08:49 PM

This software only has a yes/no option. There is no time limit option. Right now it is set at yes to 'edit own posts'. Rather than being draconian and just saying 'no', we're giving people the option to edit. If it becomes a problem we will discuss turning the option off.

**Strawberry_Kisses** · 02-23-2010 03:39 AM

Maybe she just thought she got enough advice? I agree with what everyone else says though (I read it before)

**Narrowrule** · 02-24-2010 03:24 AM

Your delema as I see it, is that you don't love yourself. You are a person of value and need not take less than what you would give. Stop and take a good look at your self, surely you deserve much much better. Expect the best and you will have it, expect the crap and it will find you every time. Love yourself, it make take work, but you are worth it. Be true to you!!