Social psychology, asking for a date, and word choice Is there a difference between asking someone "I was wondering if you'd maybe wanna go on a date with me sometime?" as opposed to asking "I was wondering if you'd maybe wanna go to lunch sometime?"
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if a guy asked me to go to lunch then i would assume that he thought he liked me and wanted to spend some time with me in a casual situation to see if he wanted it to go further
if a guy asked me out on a date then i would assume that he knew he liked me and wanted to spend time with me in a more intimate setting
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For me, asking me out on a date would make the asker seem more confident and more sure of my stance on things. Asking me out to lunch would make the asker seem a little less sure of my response. Both are fine by me. I actually kinda prefer using the word date because I like being sure of what to expect, but whatever? They're close enough to the same thing. They both have the same eventual meaning, even if confidence levels are different.
Bloody hell! All a bit nit-picky!
How about just saying 'fancy going out sometime?' Job done.
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I guess lunch is less "romantic" so if she's not sure about you yet she'd be more likely to accept. Although I'd cut all that maybe wanna sometime stuff and go with, "Let me take you out to lunch this week."
Well, this isn't actually related to a specific incident. It was more of a curiosity thing, since I know that sometimes, for certain topics, word choice can have a big impact on how the other person/people you're talking to interpret what you say. This was more my way of trying to find out if word choice mattered in dating/possible dating situations, since I have little to no experience in that department. So, the question was more to satisfy my curiosity, and also provide useful information in the future if I, or anyone else, need it.
I like the responses so far, I think they're enlightening. So, just because you know now that this isn't about an actual situation, don't feel like you shouldn't put in your two cents if you want. I'm actually hoping that more people do respond, so we can see points of view about this from many different angles.
Thanks for the replies so far. Keep 'em coming!
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