Thread: He's Older?

Thanks guys! I never thought I'd get so many responses so quickly! I'm almost 20. I guess he's only 3 and a half years older than me?

Either way the fact that he's older only bothers me when I think about how he is starting his career, and he works for a LIVING now. I rely on my parents to pay for my college, and it's 3 hours away. He attended college near there so the chances of coming back are good.

We don't hang out much just one on one anymore but mostly cause he's busy I think. My best friend senses alot of sexual tension there, but sometimes I feel that he only likes me for that reason. But then I think about how he texts me like everyday something random about his day that he'll think I'd enjoy or he just wants to tell someone.

Basically, I think he's worth the wait. He's someone I know I would enjoy being with, I adore his family and I admire him so much. We were hanging out tonight with my best friend and he gets along SO well with her which is really important to me. I just feel like he thinks I'm too young for him sometimes which is why he holds back. He wouldn't hang out with me a bunch, pay for random shit for me and my best friend and text me if he wasn't interested, right?

My lady is six years older than I am.
Just a word for thought.

THank you guys for all the help! I've decided to just sit back and let the relationship happen on it's own. The age difference only really matters if we make it matter, and we joke about it sometimes so I don't think either of us cares that much about it anymore.

I guess the only thing that's holding us back is the fact that he has a life here, and I will be returning to school in August for good. He could always visit and such, but he works alot, so that's not going to happen for a while. Either way, he's become one of the coolest people I've ever met and I really do consider him a best friend. He's amazing and he knows I think highly of him. It just so happens to be that I have feelings for him, and I think he has feelings for me too, but timing is just off, so we'll have to wait!

Thanks again though guys, you made me feel like I wasn't alone!

Hi. This is what you wrote: "I guess I just don't know what to do. I mean I like him, and I do feel like we could have a lasting relationship but I don't want to put myself out there if he doesn't feel that way, and I certainly don't want to ruin the friendship. Tonight he invited me over to watch a movie with him, and I was almost on the way when he canceled on me because of family issues. I wasn't angry and he seemed apologetic, but I really want to hang out with him more before I move back to school."

This is what I think:
1.: If you don't put yourself out there you will never know if it could be more or not the right way.
2.: If you ruin your friendship by putting yourself out there then it is not a friendship.
3.: Inviting over and then cancelling it "might" be a test.
4.: Moving back to school leaving him behind and he is 4 years older? Forget it! He will find someone closer... Not because he is bad but that's how it usually works...
But hey... I might be wrong about 4.!