Thread: Can I trust him?

Don't spy on them, if he or anybody else catches you, you'll be in deep shit..

I think you should just tell him you don't really want to leave at 11, and he shouldn't worry about drama because you'll be on your best behavior. See how hard he'll argue with you.

Do you even know who this girl is? You must know her, otherwise why would she not like you? Ask him who she is. He should be willing to tell you that, there's absolutely no reason for him not to tell you who it is. If he won't tell you who this girl is, he's being really shady.

Originally Posted by Leogirl1987

i trust him he's just being too shady to completely trust him

You either trust him or you don't.. if you don't completely trust him, then you don't trust him. And IMO you have good reason not to trust him. If there's really nothing to worry about, then there's absolutely no reason for him not to say who it is. If he says "it's no big deal" then it shouldn't be a big deal for him to tell you. And why on earth does he kick you out just for disagreeing with him? Normal people are able to disagree with others without doing something that drastic. That's a little off-topic, but still, that's shitty.

I have to say, guys can be really nice and cuddly and still cheat. Some people just want to have their cake and eat it too, you know? Sometimes people cheat not necessarily because they don't like their girlfriends, but because they don't care enough about them to stay monogamous, or they're selfish, or even just impulsive. And at that point there really isn't anything you can do to stop him. From what you've said it really sounds like he's being shady, and that obviously means he's actually planned this out and it won't be an "oops I was drunk it was a mistake" type of thing, it will be an "I specifically told my girlfriend to stay away so that I could cheat on her" thing. At which point, he's a really shitty person and you deserve better.

Don't stay with him just because you have plans to move in together, if you think about it if you're going to break up it's better to do it now because once you're living together it'll be even harder and more complicated. I get that you're in love, but you should respect yourself enough to not take that from him.

I don't think i'd react favourably to my partner telling me I have to leave a party because he has another girl coming. Whatever the situation with her, surely being his partner should outrank her. If she doesn't like you, shouldn't he say "Suck it up, that's my girlfriend so whatever your issue with her, get over it".
Whether or not he is cheating, I don't know. But the sister must know who this girl is, if he is. If my brother brought one girl to my party, sent her home, and brought another one, I think it would raise a few suspicions, and if i would need some details to the situation. I can't imagine that i'd ever condone it.
Anyway, I'd stay at the party. I wouldn't let him tell me what time i need to go home.