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Reply With QuoteEew. Eff her. I would've sat that exercise out too. I don't like strangers touching me and I've never even been abused. I think that activity was kinda G. And the prof was dum for suggesting it. W.
I have this one class called Honor's orientation.
It's really just a waste of time.
Last class though, became more than just a lame waste of 50 min. It was sheer embarrassment.
We had a class centered around "stress management" which basically involved us pairing up with somebody of the opposite sex and talking about our stresses while we gave/recieved massages.
This sounds great to many of you, I'm sure. But I have really big issues with that. I hate strange people touching me.
So, when the time came, it was an odd amount of people, so I just sat it out.
My mentor, a senior honors girl noticed and commented.
I told her I was fine and I even made a joke to the tune of "people I don't know well touching me makes me more stressed" and everybody laughed.
But then she became very persistent and I just left.
Fuck her. Doesn't she know about me.
I can't exactly come out and be like "oh yeah, did I mention I was abused and most victims of domestic abuse are particular about their personal space?"
I can't come out and tell her that, she should just have some sort of idea and lay off me after five or six times.
It probably made me look like a weirdo. Fuck her.
If you can hear a piano fall, you can hear me coming down the hall.
Eew. Eff her. I would've sat that exercise out too. I don't like strangers touching me and I've never even been abused. I think that activity was kinda G. And the prof was dum for suggesting it. W.
Mav man what is with the attitude. She didn't know, are you telling me you know everything about everyone and have never made this kind of mistake?
Every man dies, not every man really lives
Its a dog eat dog world out there and I'm wearing milkbone underwear
Yeah, but he said she became very persistent. Was she like, "C'mon Mav. What's the deal? Come on!" Something like that would've irked me after I had made it clear I didn't want to participate.
Here's how the convo went and you can make up your own mind
Me: people I don't know well touching me makes me more stressed (people laugh)
Her: loosen up and pair up with somebody
Me: that's alright, i'm fine just where i'm at
Her (to the class): Does anybody want to pair up with nick?
Me: I'm serious it's ok
Her: No, i'll have none of that
Me: I'm being serious. I'd rather just not do this.
Her (to the class again): Nick needs a partner (back to me) if you want points for today you're going to do this (now the entire class goes silent and looks at me)
Me: Is that really necessary?
Her: Yes. And you'd better get used to it. Next week we're learning how to samba.
Me: hah
her: Now pick a partner
Me: I told you already, I don't like to be touched (and now I felt really embarrassed)
Her(sarcastically or something): what's wrong? don't like girls touching you?
Then the class laughed, and I have a tendency to have that "the world is against me" idea iso I became pretty upset and said "screw you."
Then I left.
If you can hear a piano fall, you can hear me coming down the hall.
My personal opinion is that you should pull her aside and tell her why it really bothers you. I am almost positive that she will apologize for what she did.
Every man dies, not every man really lives
Its a dog eat dog world out there and I'm wearing milkbone underwear
Well, she's generally a nice person, just really task-oriented (in this case, to the point where she can't empathize)
But, I'd rather not tell her about that sort of thing, I have friends of years that still don't know.
Any other way?
If you can hear a piano fall, you can hear me coming down the hall.
[/quote]Originally posted by Greener@Oct 6 2004, 07:34 AM
Eew. Eff her. I would've sat that exercise out too. I don't like strangers touching me and I've never even been abused. I think that activity was kinda G. And the prof was dum for suggesting it. W.
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G? i dun think you would have minded that exercise if it was Ryan that was your partner
It is all an illusion...
I was never here...
You don't have to tell her. If she asks, just tell her that you don't like being touched because of personal reasons.
I'm sure she'll understand.
A man possesses talent;
genius possesses the man.
I would be scared to piss off Devious...
A man possesses talent;
genius possesses the man.
[/quote]Originally posted by Devious@Oct 6 2004, 10:37 AM
I don't think you owe her an explanation.* You aren't in grade school.* Go to class early and explain that for personal reasons you A) don't want people you aren't comfortable with touching you and B) have no need to be mocked in front of the entire class because of it.* Tell her if she has issues with you not wanting to be touched, she can take it to the next authority level and you'll deal with them.* UNTIL then, she can acknowledge that she needs to respect your personal space and not make light of it in front of an audience.
I'd be pissed off too Mav.
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Thanks Devi. You're right, I'll talk to her about it before the next class
I feel better for getting this off my chest.
Thanks for listening everybody
If you can hear a piano fall, you can hear me coming down the hall.
Yeah i would reccomend you tell her. Your in college now. Your all adults...you cant exspect someone to understand your issues if you dont tell them why. My guess is if she has a clue as to why you dont want to be touched she will understand. I know you dont want to come out and tell her your life story but i think if you just say "I really didnt appricate you hounding me in class about that excersise, i had to deal with abuse when i was younger and i just feel uncomftable with being touched. If you cant respect that then perhaps i shoudl drop the class." Your going to have to tell her why you acted the way you did, your going to have to tell her whats up.
[/quote]Originally posted by Latinodude@Oct 6 2004, 11:43 AM
I would be scared to piss off Devious...
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yeah... you should be scared about pissing Devi off.... its not a pretty sight
and Mav? good for you for tellign her no.. and yeah... a brief explanation of just I don't like people touching me for personal reasons should be enough. If she doesn't like that... too bad for her.
Its freakin college... not grade school
It is all an illusion...
I was never here...
Ack...
I've had that happen to me a few times. Especially doing those stupid trust fall things. For some reason it seems like half of the classes I have taken have required some form of that exercise. I was a teachers aid in this class that was all about team building exercises, and I swear I had people touching me every class. It bugged the crap out of me so I finally just talked to the professor and asked to beable to help lead the exercise instead of participating. After a while he let me plan activities for the class as well. It's always best to just ask, what is the worst that can happen?
Sometimes people can be stupid and just suck, dont let it get to you.
<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Syco @ Aug 10 2008, 11:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>Vaginas are always wet and always on the way to or on the way from excreting something.
Dude, it's someone touching your back, get over it.
Inspirational quote on individuality #223: "Lately everyone I know/ has been shittin' all over me/ Hey you, and all of my good friends/ They disowned my fucking friends and me/ I guess it's because/ I gotta go off in my little own direction/ But fuck 'em all. I'll never follow./ They can suck on my erection." - Mr. GG Allin
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