Thread: My virginity

You should realize that not everyone thinks sex is easy to get or necessary to have a complete personality.
Think about it, who are the people who say that?
All the sluts and manwhores who run around screwing everything that moves, and then brag about it.
You'd be surprised how many people our age are virgins, and you'd be even more surprised how guys our age are virgins and lie about it.

just tell them exactly that. tell them you're smarter, making more money, and better looking than them, and that'll just them right up. if they have nothing better to say other than, "hah, you're a virgin" then they're not very smart. it's not a logical argument either. they're retards...

(P.S. if i wasn't with my boyfriend... ) hahaha

Try whacking off to some gay porn, see if you have any revelations.

Seriously so, you've said before that being a virgin doesn't bother you, so I'm guessing all this hostility is coming because you know that people have like a 'trump card' that is a permanent blow to your clearly highly valued ego. But you need to ask yourself, do you want to lose your virginity so that people can't ridicule you anymore, or do you want to wait for that someone special? Be honest man, if you really want to lose it and just can't find a girl who'll do it, you need to face that reality in order that you can do something about it, and anyone who mocks you on here for admitting something like that is going to be a douche anyway.

But if it is just that you're looking for the right girl, you might want to think about how you're looking. You need to be seen to be actually willing to step out and make the effort, if you're going to clubs and sitting in groups of guys, it's very unlikely that a girl will walk up specifically to you, and start talking. It's possible, but it's unlikely, for a wide range of possible reasons.

And I can see why you don't go up and try it on with girls, it's because of the ego you've built around yourself, (subconsciously in part to deal with the fact that you're still a virgin) it prevents you from considering taking actions which might make you look like a dickhead (like getting knocked back by a girl). But it's only once you've dropped the ego, and the front, and you're being you, that you'll find girls leaping out of the woodwork.

I know that's shitty advice that you've heard a million times before, but I really think you're letting your ego stand in the way of some good happenings, because you're actually quite insecure when it comes to girls. And girls can smell insecurity, especially one that takes the form of a conspicuously over-played ego.

So you reckon everything 's alright cnocerning looks, the fact you graduated from college (!?!), your income and your driving skills....well, it seems to me that your big flaw is your PERSONALITY. I'm not saying I personally don't like you, but it seems you can't get laid because people just plain don't particularly want to have sex with you.

<div class=\'quotetop\'>QUOTE(Speed @ May 5 2006, 09:39 PM) [snapback]1052960829[/snapback]</div><div class=\'quotemain\'> From the second I first start talking to a girl its all on her side whehter or not she&#39;ll talk back/like me/sleep with me, and I&#39;m basically just along for the ride hoping she likes me. Why can&#39;t it just be the other way around? [/b][/quote]This is a confidence issue.

Gonna jump on the personality/self-esteem bandwagon. I don&#39;t even think it&#39;s really about your virginity.

You&#39;ve posted about how you like to bust on your friends when you hang out, that it&#39;s just your way of having fun. And it&#39;s clearly your persona here as well. Pretty much all we ever see of you is you burning one person or another in a witty little quip. You&#39;re always coming in after someone else&#39;s point to make a snide jab. That&#39;s all well and good but it doesn&#39;t make you a interesting individual.

I&#39;m sure you&#39;re a lot different offline than on, but your personality here is all we&#39;ve really got to go on. And it just seems snarky. You never create new discussions or voice serious opinions or generally put yourself out there in any way. Like some others have said here, people who make a disproprortionate amount of put-downs are typically insecure and using these jabs as a social crutch. Now I&#39;ve got nothing against clever digs and put downs, but ask yourself what else you&#39;re bringing to the table. How are you more than entertainment to those around you? What makes you compelling? If nothing else, try observing people who are much more socially successful than you and note their habits and behaviors.

If you have decent social skills, why not try it out? Break out of your comfort zone a bit. Do it slowly, if you have to, but DO it. Make your social circle bigger by joining different interest groups that appeal to you. Like a cycling or soccer or whatever group. Something besides racing. The point is: try different things. Mix your personality up a bit.

I know this post was long but hopefully some of it gets through to you. Please try not to read it defensively. You don&#39;t have to pick apart nuances. I genuinely would love to see a new thread, a few months down the line, about how things are really going well for you.

It is horribly embarrassing when you are trying to debate a subject like racing or politics on that forum and the only thing people have to say is "well you&#39;re a 22 year old virgin who lives in your parents basement, so ha!" And the thing that annoys me most is the person who gets on my case the most about it is a friend of mine from college who himself is a virgin. But in his mind it is ok because hes been dating the same girl for a year and a half and they&#39;ll do it when they get married.

What is the big deal? I graduated from college with honors, I make above average income for someone my age, I&#39;m a fairly successful racer, I&#39;m funny, I&#39;m personable, and I&#39;d be attractive if I didn&#39;t have massive amounts of body hair. But all anyone ever wants to do is ostracize me for my virginity? It isn&#39;t a big deal to me personally, when it happens it&#39;ll happen, and I just hope when I do have sex its kinda a big deal for the other person too.
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life is unfair. replace &#39;ugly&#39; with &#39;a virgin&#39; and you have my thoughts exactly. at least you can eventually do something about yours.

count your fucking blessings and get the fuck over it.